Are you feeling abandoned and unconnected in your relationship(s)?
Do you find yourself lashing out, criticizing, or judging those you love?
Do you feel rejected by someone you love?
Has there been infidelity or loss of trust?
Do you push people away instead of turning towards the ones you care for?
Are you finding it impossible to find empathy for your teen, parent, or partner?
Are attachment issues from your past resurfacing in your present relationship(s)?
Are you or someone you love feeling defensive and misunderstood instead of open and honest?
Has someone in your life not been there for you?
When we lose connection with our loved ones life can seem like one big struggle. Let's work together to get you connected again.
What we want most in life is success in all our relationships.
Online Couples Counseling
Can Help You:
Move your relationship beyond repeated futile dynamics and arguments to shared vision and purpose.
Learn to let go of defensiveness and self protection and turn towards each other with openness and trust.
Heal from betrayals and resentments.
Restore your emotional and physical connection.
Become each other's "port in a storm".
Begin to deeply understand your partner's, child's, parent's emotional reality, and find compassion for them and in turn become closer and more connected to them.
Begin to deeply understand your longings, fears, and pain so you can find compassion and understanding from others and become more accepting of yourself.
We are wired to connect with those around us. What happens when we feel like our partner, friend, or parent isn't truly there for us?
Family Therapy Can Help You Communicate Again
Kimberly Schildbach LMHC Family Therapist Serving Boston and All of Massachusetts.
Is your family in a cycle of fighting about the same things? There are hurt feelings, one or more of you are not feeling fully understood, one or more of you are feeling angry.
Family therapy can take you out of the repeated dynamics that keep you stuck.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist I'm specially trained to help family members hear each other again. In my sessions, families find space from the bitterness and dishonesty and learn to connect with their love for each other. I provide my families a place to practice skills that they take out of session into their lives.
Whether you're a parent of a teenager or a parent wanting a better relationship with your adult kids I'd love to help your family find a new way forward.
Kimberly Schildbach, LMHC, MFT - online couples therapist in Boston and all of Massachusetts.
Infidelity is a betrayal of trust that can take time and effort to mend. However, it is possible to recover from infidelity and rebuild a strong and healthy relationship.
What do you wish for going forward? Take time to identify the hopes you have for you relationship - your deep longings for attachment and connection with your partner.
Trust building will take time and effort from both partners. Couples therapy can provide the time, away from the distractions of life, to focus on rebuilding the connection between the two of you.
With my specialized training as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have helped many couples heal from infidelity. If you are both committed to healing and honesty, it is possible to come out of this experience a stronger couple than ever before.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Kimberly Schildbach LMHC MFT
Couples Therapy in Boston and all of Massachusetts
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) helps couples improve their emotional connection and communication. It is based on the theory that our early attachment experiences shape our adult relationships, and that couples who are able to resolve their attachment issues are more likely to have a happy and fulfilling relationship.
EFT has been shown to be effective in helping couples improve their relationship satisfaction, communication, and intimacy. It is a particularly good fit for couples who are struggling with emotional disconnection, conflict, or infidelity.
EFT can help couples:
Understand their attachment styles. Understanding your own attachment style and your partner's attachment style can help you to better understand why you react the way you do in conflict and how to communicate your needs more effectively.
Identify and express their emotions. EFT helps couples learn how to identify and express their emotions in a way that is clear, honest, and respectful.
Resolve conflict in a healthy way. EFT helps couples learn how to identify the root of the conflict, communicate their needs, and build trust and openness.
Repair emotional injuries. EFT helps couples repair emotional injuries and rebuild trust.
Create a more secure attachment bond. A secure attachment bond is characterized by trust, intimacy, and support. EFT can help couples to create a more secure attachment bond by helping them to feel safe, loved, and accepted.
I've worked with so many couples who come in dejected and defensive and leave feeling like their partner really "gets them". If you're struggling in your relationship please reach out for a free 15 minute consultation to see if we'd be a good fit.
Emotionally focused family therapy (EFFT) helps families improve their emotional connection and communication. It is based on the theory that our early attachment experiences shape our adult relationships, and that families who are able to resolve their attachment issues are more likely to have a happy and fulfilling family life.
EFFT has been shown to be effective in helping families improve their communication, intimacy, and problem-solving skills.
I've worked with families and couples from close to 20 years. Here are my top tips to help make your family therapy be rewarding and fruitful:
Be open to the process. Family therapy is a collaborative process that requires the participation of all family members. Be willing to share your thoughts and feelings, and be open to feedback from others. I'll be there to help make this happen.
Be patient. It takes time to make lasting changes. Be patient with yourself and your family members, and don't expect to see results overnight.
Be willing to do the work. Therapy requires commitment and effort from all family members. Be willing to put in the work to improve your family relationships. Be willing to be open and honest in sessions to get the most from our work together.
Family therapy can help get your family members become open and accessible with each other again. Please reach out and schedule your free 15 minute phone consultation to see if we'd work well together. I look forward to hearing from you!
Emotionally Focused Family Therapy
Kimberly Schildbach LMHC MFT Family Therapy in Boston and all of Massaachusetts
Questions and Objections
Does couples therapy or family therapy really work?
Absolutely, yes! Allowing me a peek into your repeated arguments gives me the chance to gently guide you into more productive conversations. I will help you to really hear each other's concerns. Sometimes we express anger or hurt when we really desire connection and love. I help couples and families hear the tender emotions behind their attacks and defensiveness.
Willpower and behavioral change alone will not help rebuild your relationship(s). If you could have fixed it you would have fixed it already. You must get to the heart of the issue(s) and for that, you need a trained and gentle guide.
What if you take my partner's, parents, child's side against me in couples counseling or family therapy?
This is a valid concern. With our friends and coworkers usually people take "a side" leaving us feeling judged and ganged up on.
I am specifically trained to connect and understand each member's point of view. Each member has a valid opinion of what has happened. Our sessions will be balanced and fair with all members having ample time to speak and feel validated.
I'm concerned you will tell us to give up or that I'm wrong? I don't want to feel judged.
You can expect me to be warm, friendly, and easy to talk to. My job is not to judge and not to tell you how to live you life.
My job is to help you all feel heard and to help you hear each other. Behind all the criticisms and hateful things we throw at our partners, parents, and teens are emotions that need to be expressed and honored. I can help you identify and express what you're struggling with so your relationships can feel light and easy again.
How do we start couples counseling or family therapy? I'm ready and I don't want to wait long.
Getting started is easy! Just contact me with any questions or concerns, or to schedule your first therapy session. I can usually offer you an appointment within a week.