Move from conflict to connection
with the power of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Stop having the same fight
Instead of repeating the same fights where one or both of you shuts down, blames, yells, or avoids the issue—escalating into drawn-out arguments—you’ll learn to identify and sidestep the recurring triggers (that look, a tone of voice, blame or criticism) that set it all off. You’ll learn to navigate even the toughest conversations because you’ll recognize the warning signs that you’re heading down the wrong path and know how to course-correct before things escalate.
When you do fight, you'll learn how to repair quickly
Rather than storming off or staying silent for days, you’ll learn to apologize in a way that truly helps. You’ll take responsibility for your actions and words and express genuine regret, turning conflicts into opportunities for growth in your relationship.
Find the understanding you both crave
Once you uncover what fuels your repeated arguments and misunderstandings, you'll learn to intentionally choose a new direction. Instead of staying walled off in your separate corners; you'll be ready to communicate with the purpose of truly understanding each other.
Support each other during life's transitions
When life throws you a curveball, you'll be each other's rock. I’ll guide you to turn toward your partner during stressful times, so you can face challenges together and make the weight of stress feel lighter..
Recovery from infidelity
Once we’ve established a foundation of safety, I’ll help you express your hurt openly and honestly. I’ll then guide your partner to truly listen and show that they hear and understand you. When you see your pain reflected in their eyes, that’s the moment healing begins—bringing you closer and more connected than ever before.
Bring the sexy feelings back
Safety, connection, and mindful exercises that tune you into your body pave the way for pleasure to flow back in.
Resolve long standing conflict or betrayals
Once you feel safe sharing your more vulnerable thoughts and feelings you'll grieve together the mistakes you've each made. You'll be a team again.
Teamwork will make your relationship blossom
No more "me vs. you," no more slammed doors or heavy silences. You truly understand each other. Now, you're both ready and equipped to share your deepest fears and desires, coming together on every level—emotionally and physically.
Return to the life where you
couldn’t wait to be with your partner.
The Process
Session one:
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We'll all meet together for session one. I will quickly introduce you to the process of EFT and how I work in sessions. Together, we will dive into the key challenges you’re facing. We’ll explore your attachment styles and how they shape the way you approach conflicts. With this understanding, you’ll begin to see how your coping styles impact each other, allowing you to unite against the rigid cycle that keeps you stuck. My priority is to create a safe and supportive space where both of you feel seen, heard, and understood.
Session two and three: individual sessions
During sessions two and three, I’ll meet with each of you individually to learn more about your family background, relationship history, goals, and concerns. My aim is to build a strong connection with both of you as I work in support of your relationship. Together, we’ll explore your thoughts and emotions, and I may offer alternative perspectives or insights for you to consider. In a collaborative process, we’ll work to uncover and understand the underlying feelings that trigger arguments, helping you navigate these challenges with greater understanding and compassion.
Session four and beyond:
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I will help you both slow down and focus on those pivotal moments in your interactions where communication falters—whether it’s during escalating arguments, when emotions feel overwhelming, or when one of you feels hurt or dismissed. I will help you uncover the deeper feelings that often get suppressed—those emotions that, when shared, help your partner feel your love and lead to powerful and adhesive bonding moments. If there has been infidelity or other betrayals, I will help guide you through conversations where the betrayed partner can express their pain and feel that their hurt is truly understood and shared so you can grieve this relationship challenge together.
Weeks of Therapy in Just 1-2 Days
Why wait months when you can supercharge your relationship in just 1 or 2 days? A couples therapy intensive lets you fast-track what would normally take many weeks—resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, and sparking new energy in your relationship.
Think of it as therapy on steroids (the good kind)—packed with insights, breakthroughs, and a massive boost to your connection. Get your best friend back and reignite the spark.
Q & A
Couples Therapy South Burlington, Vermont
What if you take my partner's side against me in couples counseling? This is a valid concern. Friends and coworkers usually "take a side", leaving us feeling judged and ganged up on. I am specifically trained to connect and understand each member's point of view. Each member has a valid opinion of what has happened. Our sessions will be balanced and fair with each of you having ample time to speak and feel validated.
I'm concerned you will tell us to give up or that I'm wrong? I don't want to feel judged. You can expect me to be warm, friendly, and easy to talk to. My job is not to judge and not to tell you how to live your life. My job is to help you both feel heard and to help you hear each other. Behind all the criticisms and hateful things we throw at our partners are emotions that need to be expressed and honored. I can help you identify and express what you're struggling with so your relationships can feel light and easy again.
How do we start couples counseling? I'm ready and I don't want to wait long. Contact me with any questions or concerns or to schedule your first therapy session. My weekly slots fill up quickly. Need support sooner? Explore my Couples Therapy Intensives: Mini-intensives for ongoing work, or one-day/two-day retreats.
Things for Couples to Do in South Burlington, Vermont
South Burlington, Vermont, offers a mix of outdoor activities and relaxing spots for couples to enjoy. Start with a peaceful stroll around Oakledge Park, offering stunning lake views and plenty of spots for a quiet picnic. For a more adventurous outing, rent bikes and explore the Island Line Trail, a beautiful bike path along the water. If you enjoy local culture, visit the Fleming Museum to take in some art and history. For a cozy date, enjoy a wine tasting at Shelburne Vineyard, just a short drive away, or unwind with a relaxing spa day at The Essex Resort & Spa.
Directions to South Burlington, Vermont
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Getting to South Burlington is simple, whether you're coming from nearby cities or further away:
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From Burlington (10 minutes): Head south on US-7 S, continue on Shelburne Rd, and follow signs to South Burlington.
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From Montpelier (45 minutes): Take I-89 S to I-189 S, then exit at US-7 S and follow signs to South Burlington.
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From Middlebury (45 minutes): Take US-7 N, continue straight into South Burlington.