You will benefit from trauma informed therapy:
If your coping skills (substances, eating, addictions) aren't helping you have a healthy positive life
If someone in your friend or family circle is a trauma survivor
If you feel on high alert or shut down during your day or when reminded of a past event
If depression or anxiety has wreaked havoc on your life
If you've suffered emotional abuse
If your family of origin had toxic shame or attachment issues
If you've been isolated
If you love someone or have been loved by someone addicted to behaviors or substances
If the path to becoming a parent was hard
If the path to not becoming a parent was hard
If you've had illness or accidents
If you've engaged in self harm
If you've had an eating disorder
If you've suffered any violence, assault or abuse
If you've suffered loss, if you grieve
Anyone involved in adoption and foster care including birth parents, adoptees and adoptive parents
If you've ever felt unsafe in any way
If you've seen or been involved in a disaster
If you are an emergency responder
If you are a helping professional
If you've ever experienced hatred
If you've ever been in combat or you love someone that has
If you've ever felt misunderstood
If you've felt something - even if I or others can't see or catagorize it - that causes you to feel emotionally overwhelmed, you would benefit from a trauma informed therapist
Trauma informed therapy recognizes the impact of any emotionally overwhelming experience on a person. Any experience where a person didn't feel safe. These experiences change our nervous system which can lead to emotional and physical problems that can impact our ability to regulate our behaviors and emotions and weaken our relationships.
Many trauma survivors are not aware of how their history impacts their daily functioning. They might not even recognize their experiences as traumatic. They might live a life shut down or on high alert because of their past and their health, relationships and stability suffer.
I like an inclusive definition - so that the hurting person gets to say what is trauma for them. Only you can decide if something was traumatic!
I'm scared to start therapy.
I will provide a safe place and time for you to learn about yourself.
Before my clients started therapy they:
worried about being diagnosed, judged or disrespected
they assumed that therapy would make them feel worse
the thought therapy would feel like an interrogation
After starting therapy they noticed:
making even small changes in my self care brings back hope
when I make a change all my relationships benefit
it takes time to understand the impact of trauma on my life
Fear can keep us stuck in relationships and in our lives. Step out even while you are afraid and I think you will find therapy deeply healing.
Why don't you bill insurance?
It is important to me to provide high-quality, specialized, and uniquely individualized care. Unfortunately, this has proven impossible to do within the confines of managed care. In addition to the low reimbursement rates, the amount of paperwork and high denial rate makes insurance reimbursement cost prohibitive for many psychologists. I support policy efforts by the American Psychological Association and the California Psychological Association to make mental health services more accessible for everyone.
When insurance pays for your therapy your care must be deemed a "medical necessity" and you must be diagnosed with a psychiatric illness. When you pay out of pocket I do not have to diagnose you or share any personal information with your insurance company.
When you pay for your therapy you get to choose the length of treatment and number of sessions. You can consult a therapist for self exploration or stressful life situations, as well as psychological symptoms.
I have chosen to offer only a small number of session slots to keep my business small and exclusive. I'm not stressed out from trying to keep track of all my clients. I will know your story.
Because I have a limited amount of slots for clients I focus my other hours on tending to my own self care. That way when we meet I can be totally focused on you and your healing.
What is your cancellation policy?
Since the scheduling of an appointment involves the reservation of time set aside especially for you, a minimum of 24 hours notice is required for rescheduling or cancellation of an appointment. If for any reason a session is canceled less than 24 hours prior, the full fee will be charged.
What form of payment do you accept?
I accept Venmo, PayPal, or I can send you an email invoice using Square and you can pay with a credit card.
How many sessions will I need?
There is no definitive answer to this question. Some individuals find a few sessions sufficient while others like to work long term with someone they trust and will meet for a year or more. As a client centered therapist I believe you need to take the lead in your healing. Putting a lot of honesty and energy into your therapy means you will get a lot out of it.We can collaborate to find goals and a course of therapy that feels right to you.
What should I expect from therapy?
Most people want to work on:
Changing a behavior that might have helped them survive then but hurts them now
Learning new skills to enhance their relationships
Increasing coping and regulation skills when experiencing anxiety, depression or other big feelings
Help with decision making
Self knowledge, acceptance and development (learning that trauma is not WHO they are - it's what happened to them.)
Exploring the past in a safe manor (and the client defines "safe")
Moving from self criticism and judgement to acceptance and self knowledge
You can expect our sessions to feel like a really good, in depth conversation. There might be tears, laughter or anger. I will provide a non judgmental space with support, safety and empathy.
If you choose to meet online we will meet on Doxy, a secure online therapy platform.
This is my personal waiting room: https://doxy.me/schildbach
Before our first session please set up your online account, it only takes a few minutes.
What towns and states do you serve?
Since I only see clients online we can work together no matter where you live.
I am licensed in the state of Massachusetts as a Mental Health Counselor (license number 6755.)
If you do not reside in Massachusetts you will be meeting with me as a counselor or a life coach, not as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, but our meetings will be exactly the same.
How can I prepare for my therapy session?
Take a moment before sessions to center yourself - connect with what is bothering you most at this point in time.
Take risks to be open and honest in therapy. Sometimes we hide our "bad parts" because we've been judged in the past. Therapy is the time to share your "bad parts" - all the parts you keep hidden - so you can have the greatest reward and peace.
Try asking yourself questions to "frame" your work in therapy. What do I want most in life? How do I want my life to change? Knowing where you are going will help you take small steps to get there.
Remember that therapy is just 1 hour of your week - the other 167 hours are when you make the changes that will lead to the life you want to live. Try to put into practice the insights you have during your sessions. Make sure to celebrate even small gains!