Neurodiverse Couples Therapy in Boston, Massachusetts
At its best, love is complex, unique, and transformative—just like our brains. When one or both partners are neurodiverse—whether ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or another way of processing the world—relationships are full of creativity, energy, insight… and sometimes unexpected challenges.
Neurodiverse brains are brilliant, wired to perceive, feel, and respond in rich, distinctive ways. They thrive in a supportive process that helps uncover and communicate the softer, often unspoken emotions that keep connection alive.
I work with couples in Boston and throughout Massachusetts to help partners understand, appreciate, and harness the unique strengths of their relationship. Every session is designed to honor the ways your brain works, build connection, and interrupt the patterns that leave you feeling stuck—so love can grow deeper, more resilient, and more joyful.
Why Neurodiverse Relationships Benefit from Therapy
Neurodivergent couples often experience miscommunication, emotional overwhelm, and clashing processing styles. These challenges can feel frustrating, isolating, or even hopeless—but they don’t have to be. Couples therapy for neurodiverse partners is about seeing your differences as assets, not obstacles. It’s about discovering how your brains can complement one another rather than collide.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a particularly powerful approach for neurodiverse couples because it emphasizes creating emotional safety and understanding. EFT helps partners recognize and express their emotional needs, fostering a secure bond even when their brains process emotions differently.
With EFT, couples learn to:
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Recognize and honor emotional cues that might otherwise be missed or misunderstood.
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Build trust and safety, even when one partner processes emotions or sensory input differently.
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Create lasting connection by tapping into attachment needs, a universal part of every human brain.
EFT helps couples turn differences into opportunities for deeper understanding.
The Beauty of Neurodiverse Brains in Love
You fell in love for a reason. The qualities that drew you together—your energy, your focus, your creativity, your curiosity—are part of what makes your connection unique. Neurodiverse brains bring ways of seeing, feeling, and experiencing the world that when understood in the light of attachment, can enrich your relationship.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps you identify what you’re feeling, especially in the heat of an argument, slow it down, and share with your partner softer emotions that invite empathy and understanding. It breaks the patterns that leave you both feeling alone and discouraged—but it doesn’t have to be this way. I’m here to show you a different path, one where curiosity replaces blame, understanding replaces frustration, and the love that brought you together can grow stronger than ever.
Frequently Asked Questions About Neurodiverse Couples Therapy in Boston, Massachusetts
What is neurodiverse couples therapy and how can it help my relationship
Neurodiverse couples therapy is designed for partners where one or both of you have ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or other neurodivergent traits. The goal isn’t to “fix” your brains—it’s to help you understand what you’re thinking and feeling, communicate those feelings clearly to your partner (and share openly when you’re unsure), and turn the differences in your two unique nervous systems into strengths. Through therapy, you’ll learn to navigate misunderstandings, emotional overwhelm, and patterns of disconnection, all while deepening your bond.
How does Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) work for neurodiverse couples?
EFT is powerful because it works with your brain, not against it. I help you identify the hidden emotions behind behaviors like withdrawal or emotional intensity. You’ll learn to express needs safely, recognize your partner’s cues, and reconnect in ways that feel secure and loving—even when your brains process emotions differently.
My partner and I process emotions very differently. Can therapy still help?
Absolutely. Neurodiverse couples often experience emotional mismatches—one person may feel intensely while the other processes internally. Therapy provides tools to bridge that gap: learning to recognize each other’s emotional language, responding without judgment, and building trust that withstands differences.
We argue a lot. Is it possible to stop the cycle?
Yes. I help couples recognize these patterns, interrupt the cycle, and practice communication strategies that work for your unique brains. I guide couples in noticing their moves in the dance that keeps them stuck. Often, one partner is more comfortable expressing intense emotions while the other needs more time to process. Sometimes, one partner feels the impact of words deeply but isn’t sure how to share what’s happening inside.
Can therapy help us reconnect after feeling disconnected for years?
Without a doubt. EFT-based neurodiverse couples therapy focuses on rebuilding emotional safety and connection. Many couples feel a renewed sense of closeness after just a few sessions.
I’m neurodiverse, but my partner is not. Will therapy still be effective?
Absolutely. Therapy is about meeting both of you where you are. I will work with each of you to help you connect with your inner world, notice what you're feeling, and communicate it authentically to your partner creating powerful bonding moments that soothe your relationship and your heart.
What if I’m worried you won’t understand my neurodiverse brain?
That’s a valid concern—and one I take seriously. My approach celebrates the creativity, insight, and strengths all brains bring to a relationship. Therapy is not about fixing one of you—it’s about helping your partnership thrive in the context of each of your unique wiring. I provide a safe, validating space where you can explore why you react the way you do and find a different path that doesn’t leave you and your partner alone in times of distress.
How long does neurodiverse couples therapy usually take?
Every couple is unique. Some partners experience breakthroughs within a few sessions, while most benefit from ongoing support over months. Sessions are tailored to your goals, focusing on creating meaningful, lasting change, not simply filling time.
Will therapy help with intimacy?
Yes. Differences between partners can sometimes make intimacy feel complicated, but therapy creates a roadmap for understanding, trust, and attunement. By identifying emotional triggers, communication gaps, and attachment needs, you can rebuild closeness and deepen connection in ways that honor both partners’ experiences. Therapy can also address desire discrepancies or how past trauma may come between sexual closeness. Again, there is no goal to “fix” anyone—therapy is about finding empathy and protection for each other’s tender spots.
How do I know if my relationship would benefit from neurodiverse couples therapy?
If you notice repeated miscommunications, emotional shutdowns, conflict cycles, or moments where one or both of you feel unseen or misunderstood, therapy can help.
Can therapy help me appreciate my partner’s neurodiverse brain more?
Absolutely. Many partners in neurodiverse relationships gain a profound understanding of each other’s unique wiring. You’ll learn to see differences as gifts that enhance your connection, not challenges that separate you. Therapy helps transform curiosity, patience, and empathy into tools for a thriving relationship.
How can neurodiverse couples therapy help CEO, entrepreneur, or C-suite clients?
Many high-performing leaders — CEOs, founders, and executives — identify as neurodiverse, often without realizing it. Traits like intense focus, innovative thinking, and a drive for excellence can be tremendous professional strengths, but they sometimes create friction in close relationships.
Neurodiverse couples therapy helps partners understand these differences rather than pathologize them. It offers structure, emotional clarity, and tools for communication that honor both partners’ ways of processing information and emotion. For high-achieving couples, this work can turn misunderstandings into collaboration — at home and in the boardroom.
Can you provide therapy for me and my business partner, or me and the founder of my company?
Yes. High-stakes business relationships can be intense, complicated, and full of unspoken expectations — especially for neurodiverse leaders. In sessions, I create a safe, structured space and act as a skilled facilitator, helping you slow down, cut through misunderstandings, and see the dynamics driving conflict. This work strengthens communication and understanding not just at work, but at home, so your partnerships in every part of life can function more smoothly — without blame or trying to “fix” anyone.
Fun Places for Couples in Boston, MA
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Take a quiet walk through the Boston Public Garden and glide together on the iconic Swan Boats. Boston.gov+1
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Share a slow afternoon of conversation in front of a favorite piece at the Museum of Fine Arts, Boston. Museum of Fine Arts Boston
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Cozy up for an indie film at the Coolidge Corner Theatre — a great low-pressure date night. Coolidge Corner Theatre
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Dress up for dinner and cocktails at Yvonne’s Restaurant & Supper Club for a moody, memorable night out. Yvonne's Boston
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Rent a tandem kayak or canoe from Paddle Boston and see the city from the Charles River together. paddleboston.com
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Watch the skyline turn to gold on a Boston Harbor sunset cruise.
