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Kimberly Schildbach Therapy

Online Couples Therapy and Discernment Counseling in Washington, Massachusetts, Connecticut, & Florida.

Discernment Counseling in Naples, Florida

A structured, time limited (typically 1-5 session) process to help you decide with confidence the direction for your relationship.

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Before You Decide, Give Yourself a Process

Does this sound like you?

One of you is leaning out, the other is desperate to hold on - and every conversation turns into pressure, pleading, or shutdown.

You go in circles. The same fight, the same silence, the same exhaustion -  and you can’t tell if it’s repairable or just over.

You’re afraid of making the wrong decision. Staying feels unbearable. Leaving feels irreversible.

Friends and family have opinions. You feel pulled in every direction -  except toward your own clarity.

You don’t want months of couples therapy. You want focus. You want honesty. You want to know what you’re actually deciding.

Discernment Counseling will give you the space and time to pause and consider what's next. 

Discernment counseling is not couples therapy.

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It is a structured, time-limited process designed specifically for couples where one partner is leaning out of the relationship and the other is leaning in - or where both of you feel uncertain, exhausted, and on the brink of separation.

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I specialize in working with high-conflict couples and those on the brink of divorce or separation. Discernment counseling is when one or both of you is not ready and invested enough to begin traditional couples therapy.

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Here’s what it actually looks like:

  • We meet for 1–5 sessions.

  • Each session includes time together as a couple and time one-on-one with each of you.

  • I use structured questions and individual conversations to get you to consider all your options.

  • We are not trying to “fix” the relationship.

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Instead, we slow everything down and give you both a space and supportive process to discern what you feel.

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We look carefully at:

  • What has happened in the relationship

  • The patterns that have kept you stuck

  • Each partner’s contributions to the patterns

  • Whether real change is possible, wanted - and what it would require

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By the end of the process, you can choose one of three paths:

  • Commit to six months of focused couples therapy with genuine effort.

  • Move toward separation or divorce with greater understanding 

  • Keep things the way they are 

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I want you to leave this process without regret about how you handled it - knowing you were honest, and thorough. That whatever decision you make, it comes from clarity and confidence, not pressure or panic. Support yourself with a proven process for this most important decision.

What Discernment Counseling Is - and Exactly What It Looks Like 

Online Discernment Counseling in Naples, FLorida

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Listen as Dr. Bill Doherty, founder of Discernment Counseling, explains the process and how it helps couples on the brink gain clarity and direction.

If your marriage is on the brink - Discernment Counseling can help you find clarity.

Making a life-changing decision without a process can lead to second-guessing and regret. Give yourself a structured pause with a proven method designed to help you decide. Discernment Counseling helps you slow down and carefully consider all of your options.

FAQs about Online Discernment Counseling in Naples, Florida

What is discernment counseling?

Discernment counseling is a short-term, structured counseling process for couples considering separation or divorce when one or both partners are uncertain about continuing the relationship. It helps couples gain clarity and confidence about whether to pursue couples therapy or move toward separation.

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How is discernment counseling different from couples therapy?

Couples therapy assumes both partners are committed to improving the relationship.
Discernment counseling assumes at least one partner is unsure.

In discernment counseling, we focus on decision-making and clarity. In couples therapy, we focus on healing and change.

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Who is discernment counseling for?

Discernment counseling is appropriate when:

  • One partner wants out and the other wants to stay

  • You've tried couples therapy without progress

  • There has been infidelity or betrayal and the future feels unclear

  • Divorce has been mentioned but not fully decided

  • You feel stuck in ambivalence

It is not appropriate in cases of ongoing domestic violence where safety cannot be maintained.

It is not appropriate if one person has fully decided to leave the relationship.

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How many sessions does discernment counseling take?

Discernment counseling typically lasts between 1 and 5 sessions. If there are extenuating circumstances, such as one partner is discerning whether to end an affair and whether they want to stay in their marriage at the same time, the process can extend to 7 or 8 sessions.The process is designed to be short-term and focused on decision clarity rather than long-term therapeutic work.

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What happens in a discernment counseling session?

Each session includes:

  • Time with both partners together

  • Individual time with each partner

  • Exploration of relationship history and patterns

  • Discussion of what change would realistically require if you decided to work on your relationship

The goal is to help both partners make a thoughtful, informed decision about the future of the relationship. 

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What are the possible outcomes of discernment counseling?

There are three possible outcomes:

  • Commit to six months of couples therapy with full effort.

  • Move toward separation or divorce.

  • Status quo.

 

Can discernment counseling save a marriage?

Discernment counseling helps couples decide whether they want to try to repair their relationship - and whether they have the momentum and commitment to repair it. For some couples, clarity leads to renewed commitment. For others, clarity leads to a respectful separation.

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Is discernment counseling worth it if divorce feels likely?

Yes. Even when divorce seems likely, discernment counseling reduces regret. It allows both partners to leave knowing the decision was deliberate, not reactive. If you're on this page you have doubts - I think everyone deserves a process when a decision this big is to be made.

Driving to Naples, Florida

Head north or west on I-75 S (Alligator Alley) toward Naples. From Fort Lauderdale to Naples takes about 1 hr 45 min.

From Miami area, take Florida’s Tamiami Trail / US-41 W or I-75 W toward Naples.

Places for Couples to Reconnect in Naples, FL

Discover peaceful, romantic spots in Naples, Florida that are perfect for slowing down, reconnecting, and making meaningful memories together:

Nature & Outdoor Moments
Seagate and Tigertail Beach – Take a sunset walk along the white sandy shores and let the Gulf Coast views create space for connection and conversation.

Gordon River Greenway – Stroll hand-in-hand through tranquil trails and boardwalks along the river for quiet time in nature.

Naples Botanical Garden – Wander vibrant themed gardens and pause in peaceful pockets of greenery together.

Delnor-Wiggins Pass State Park – Plan a picnic with coastal views or explore mangroves by kayak for a shared outdoor adventure.

Dining & Cozy Experiences
Seventh South Waterfront – Intimate waterfront dinner or drinks with a relaxed, romantic vibe.

Tulia Italian Steak & Osteria Tulia – Elevated Italian dining on 5th Avenue — perfect for date nights that feel special.

Nat Nat – Cozy wine bar for slow conversations over great wine and small plates.

The Ritz‑Carlton, Naples & Inn on Fifth – Book a romantic staycay to unwind and reconnect away from home.

Couple walking hand-in-hand on a calm beach.
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