You Haven’t Given Up - But You Don’t Know How to Fix What Keeps Happening Between You
Couples Therapy Services in all of Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
Living with the person you love more than anyone in the world and feeling miles away is torture. All roads lead to the same fight, the same defensiveness. And now the hurt doesn't go away. Even repairs and "I'm sorrys" fall flat. Every negative interaction is widening the distance between you.
You can talk about parenting, schedules, and who’s doing what, but not really about what's happening between you two. The relationship becomes a series of transactions rather than a source of comfort. And you're hungry for comfort and reassurance.
If something brutally painful has come between you - an infidelity, sexual secrecy, or months or years of no intimacy - everything feels uncertain between you. You're worried about your future.
You want more than this and you're ready to get it. Let me help you get there.
You want to make it work - you just don’t know how. That’s where couples therapy helps.
Couples Therapy in MA, CT, WA, & FL
Right now, it may be hard to imagine feeling close again. You spend so much time managing conflict, avoiding conflict, or recovering from conflict that you've almost forgotten what it feels like to genuinely enjoy each other. But underneath all the hurt, you know there is still something worth fighting for.
You miss laughing together. Snuggling on the couch and feeling close. Being able to talk about things that happened in the past or difficult conversations without wondering what kind of reaction you're going to get.
You're ready to be courageous. You want a relationship that feels easy again. No landmines, no holding back. Just you and your partner against the world.
I can help you get there.
The couples who heal their relationships aren't perfect couples. They have fights and arguments, but they learn how to stop the fight before it goes from 0–100. With my help, they discover the tender places that have gotten nicked over and over again but that they never talk about. In therapy, we start talking about those places and sharing them with your partner.
You'll get the reassurance, acceptance, and love you've been longing for underneath all the jabs and hurts. And repair comes more easily because you're not fighting an opponent anymore - you're calling in your best friend to reassure you.
I know you don't want to spend the next ten years talking about schedules, bills, parenting, and who's picking up groceries. I can help you find your partner again. The one you love to flirt with, share dumb jokes with, get naked with, and remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in all of MA, WA, CT, & FL.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how can it help us?
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a structured, evidence-based approach that helps couples move out of cycles of conflict and disconnection. Instead of just learning communication tips, EFT gets to the root of why you’re stuck - helping you feel safer, more understood, and more connected to each other again. It’s especially effective for couples in crisis or dealing with long-standing patterns of hurt.
Can couples therapy actually help our sex life, or is it just about talking?
Many couples come to therapy when their sex life isn’t what they think it should be. But sex isn’t just about sex - the best sex happens when you feel safe, vulnerable, loose, and free with each other. If your relationship has been struggling with missed communication, injuries, or unspoken resentments, desire discrepancies can sneak in and make you draw quick, often unfair conclusions about each other, your relationship, and even yourself.
In couples therapy, sex always comes up - because it’s never really just about what happens in the bedroom. We’ll talk about the times you do feel close, what feels different then, what hits the brakes, and what hits the gas. I help you both become infinitely curious about each other, so pleasure and connection can be found in every interaction - not just in bed (though definitely there too!).
We’re in a rough place. Is couples therapy too late for us?
Not at all. I specialize in working with high-conflict couples and those on the brink of separation. Learning to turn towards each other again can be retrieved from your muscle memory.
If either of you is seriously leaning out - Discernment Counseling might be a better choice before you waste months in couples therapy. Discernment Counseling is a structured process to help you decide if you'd like to keep the status quo, move to separation or divorce, or take divorce off the table for 6 months and commit to an intensive round of couples therapy.
What if one of us isn’t sure we want to stay in the relationship?
That’s more common than you might think. If one partner is leaning out and the other is all-in, I offer a specific process called Discernment Counseling. You’ll each get space to be honest, and we’ll figure out whether to try therapy or move toward a different kind of resolution, with care and respect.
We’ve tried couples therapy before and it didn’t help. What’s different this time?
That’s something I hear often. Many couples have had disappointing experiences with therapists who didn’t truly know how to do couples therapy. My approach is different. I use a clear, structured model (EFT), and I work with a very small caseload so I can stay deeply engaged in your process. I’ll remember your story, your patterns, and your progress. You won’t be doing this alone.
I’m also very direct. I’ll name the moments where we get stuck or when defenses show up, and I’ll help each of you see your part in the cycle. Many therapists drift toward one partner - and that’s when therapy breaks down. Every relationship takes two people, and both partners have to shift (except in cases of affairs or addictions - those actions are 100% the responsibility of the person who stepped out. Still, both partners shape the overall emotional climate of the relationship).
Our work is about understanding what happens in your heart and body when your partner does x, and helping you send a clearer, more vulnerable signal in those moments. When this starts to click, couples move from high escalation to tender, bonding moments where they finally feel heard - and they begin to protect each other’s most vulnerable places.
It's truly magic - and you both deserve that kind of magic.
Specialized, expert, online care.
Couples Therapy in MA, CT, WA, & FL
I provide online couples therapy for couples who are tired of having the same arguments, feeling emotionally disconnected, or wondering why it has become so hard to feel close to the person they love.
I work with couples throughout Boston, Cambridge, Brookline, Wellesley, Newton, Natick, Quincy, Lynn, Brockton, and Worcester, as well as couples in Fairfield and Branford, Connecticut, and Vancouver, and Bellevue, Washington.
Whether you're caught in a cycle of criticism and defensiveness, struggling to rebuild connection after a painful period, feeling more like roommates than partners, or questioning whether your relationship can get back on track, couples therapy can help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck and create a stronger, more secure bond.
I also provide online couples therapy throughout Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida, making it possible to get specialized relationship support where you are.