You’re here, reading this, which means you haven’t given up. That matters. So many people avoid couples therapy because they’re scared it’ll prove the worst—that it’s over. But what if that fear is exactly what keeps you stuck? Loving someone and feeling hurt, distant, or totally off-track doesn’t mean it’s doomed. It means your signals are scrambled. Patterns can heal. You can find your way back to each other—with the right map, the right guide, and a willingness to try.
You want to make it work—you just don’t know how.
That’s where therapy helps.
Stop having the same fight
Instead of repeating the same fights where one or both of you shuts down, blames, yells, or avoids the issue—escalating into drawn-out arguments—you’ll learn to identify and sidestep the recurring triggers (that look, a tone of voice, blame or criticism) that set it all off. You’ll learn to navigate even the toughest conversations because you’ll recognize the warning signs that you’re heading down the wrong path and know how to course-correct before things escalate.
When you do fight, you'll learn how to repair quickly
Rather than storming off or staying silent for days, you’ll learn to apologize in a way that truly helps. You’ll take responsibility for your actions and words and express genuine regret, turning conflicts into opportunities for growth in your relationship.
Find the understanding you both crave
Once you uncover what fuels your repeated arguments and misunderstandings, you'll learn to intentionally choose a new direction. Instead of staying walled off in your separate corners; you'll be ready to communicate with the purpose of truly understanding each other.
Support each other during life's transitions
When life throws you a curveball, you'll be each other's rock. I’ll guide you to turn toward your partner during stressful times, so you can face challenges together and make the weight of stress feel lighter..
Recovery from infidelity
Once we’ve established a foundation of safety, I’ll help you express your hurt openly and honestly. I’ll then guide your partner to truly listen and show that they hear and understand you. When you see your pain reflected in their eyes, that’s the moment healing begins—bringing you closer and more connected than ever before.
Bring the sexy feelings back
Safety, connection, and mindful exercises that tune you into your body pave the way for pleasure to flow back in.
Resolve long standing conflict or betrayals
Once you feel safe sharing your more vulnerable thoughts and feelings you'll grieve together the mistakes you've each made. You'll be a team again.
Teamwork will make your relationship blossom
No more "me vs. you," no more slammed doors or heavy silences. You truly understand each other. Now, you're both ready and equipped to share your deepest fears and desires, coming together on every level—emotionally and physically.
Return to the life where you
couldn’t wait to be with your partner.
Weeks of Therapy in Just 1-2 Days
Why wait months when you can supercharge your relationship in just 1 or 2 days? A couples therapy intensive lets you fast-track what would normally take many weeks—resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, and sparking new energy in your relationship.
Think of it as therapy on steroids (the good kind)—packed with insights, breakthroughs, and a massive boost to your connection. Get your best friend back and reignite the spark.
The Process
Session one:
couple together
In our first session, we’ll meet together. I’ll quickly walk you through the EFT process and how we’ll work in each session—then we’ll dive right in.
This is where we start uncovering what’s breaking you apart. The behaviors that leave both of you confused. We’ll name the cycles of escalation and withdrawal and how they’ve been feeding the hurt between you.
Once you see the cycle for what it is and how each of you contributes, you’ll realize you have powerful choices to make. Because when each of you finds flexibility in how you respond during arguments, overwhelm, or stress, it can change the entire dynamic of your relationship.
Session two and three: individual sessions
During sessions two and three, I’ll meet with each of you individually to learn more about your family background, relationship history, goals, and concerns. My aim is to build a strong connection with both of you as I work in support of your relationship. Together, we’ll explore your thoughts and emotions, and I may offer alternative perspectives or insights for you to consider.
Session four and beyond:
couple together
I will help you both slow down and focus on those pivotal moments in your interactions where communication falters—whether it’s during escalating arguments, when emotions feel overwhelming, or when one of you feels hurt or dismissed. I will help you uncover the deeper feelings that often get suppressed—those emotions that, when shared, help your partner feel your love and lead to powerful and adhesive bonding moments. If there has been infidelity or other betrayals, I will help guide you through conversations where the betrayed partner can express their pain and feel that their hurt is truly understood and shared so you can grieve this relationship challenge together.
How You Get Lasting Change
I don’t focus on surface fixes. The work I do is about real, lasting change — the kind that transforms how you show up with each other.
First-order change is when you try to improve things by tweaking behaviors — saying things differently, spending more time together — without addressing the deeper emotional patterns underneath. These changes might offer temporary relief, but often, couples end up back in the same painful cycle.
In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we aim for second-order change. We go beyond the surface and get to the heart of the matter — the emotions, needs, and fears that are driving your responses to each other. By shifting the entire emotional pattern, we create new ways of connecting that lead to lasting transformation.
This is the kind of change that doesn’t just feel different — it is different.
Questions and Objections
What if you take my partner's side against me in couples counseling? This is a valid concern. Friends and coworkers usually "take a side", leaving us feeling judged and ganged up on. I am specifically trained to connect and understand each member's point of view. Each member has a valid opinion of what has happened. Our sessions will be balanced and fair with each of you having ample time to speak and feel validated.
I'm concerned you will tell us to give up or that I'm wrong? I don't want to feel judged. You can expect me to be warm, friendly, and easy to talk to. My job is not to judge and not to tell you how to live your life. My job is to help you both feel heard and to help you hear each other. Behind all the criticisms and hateful things we throw at our partners are emotions that need to be expressed and honored. I can help you identify and express what you're struggling with so your relationships can feel light and easy again.
How do we start couples counseling? I'm ready and I don't want to wait long. Contact me with any questions or concerns or to schedule your first therapy session. My weekly slots fill up quickly. Need support sooner? Consider a Couples Therapy Intensives.