You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck
in this painful
In-Between
Certified Discernment Counseling in Boston and all of Massachusetts
One day you're sure you're done, and the next you're remembering why you fell in love. One day you're thinking, I can't do this anymore, and the next you're wondering if you really want to walk away from the life you've built together.
You are exhausted from trying to figure out what you want, terrified of making the wrong decision, and heartbroken that the person you love may not want the same future you do.
When you’re caught in this painful limbo - I can help you find your way through.
As a Certified Discernment Counselor, I can guide you through a supportive, structured process designed to help you gain clarity and decide what comes next.
You don't have to stay stuck in this painful place. Let me help you make a decision you feel confident about.
When the limbo you're in is too painful to stay in.
Discernment Counseling in Boston, Massachusetts
When you've reached the point where one of you is leaning toward leaving, the other is hoping to stay, and both of you are exhausted from living in this stuck place, Discernment Counseling can help you figure out what to do next.
We go back to where your relationship began, what brought you together, what changed, what has been lost, and what has kept you connected despite everything that has happened.
We look honestly at what staying would mean and what leaving would mean - not only for the two of you, but for your children, your finances, your family, your friendships, your home, and the life you have built together.
I will help you get out of your head and the circular tsunami you're caught in, and help you explore everything so you can feel confident in your decision. If you decide to repair, you'll do so with a clear agenda for what needs to change. If you decide to move to separation, you'll do so with a better understanding of your partner and yourself.
I know this isn't a decision you ever thought you'd have to make. So let me help you consider all angles slowly and thoughtfully before you decide. You don't have to make this decision on your own.
Is Discernment Counseling Right for You?
One of You Is Ready to Leave. The Other Isn’t.
One of you is leaning toward divorce while the other wants to save the marriage. You need a way to move forward when you're not on the same page.
Couples Therapy Hasn’t Changed Things.
You've worked on your relationship, but the same problems persist. Now you're questioning whether the marriage can be saved at all.
Neither of You Knows What Comes Next.
You're both questioning the future of your marriage. You want clarity about whether to work on the relationship or let it go.
Divorce Is Already on the Table.
You've filed for divorce or started planning your lives apart, but you're still unsure. You want to feel confident in your decision before moving forward.
Frequently Asked Questions about Discernment Counseling in Boston, Massachusetts
What is the process like?
Discernment Counseling is a time-limited process of up to five sessions focused on helping you decide what comes next for your relationship. The time limit is intentional. It helps you move out of limbo by giving us a focused way to explore what has happened, what you want, and what your options are.
Our first session is two hours, and any future sessions are 80 minutes. We work toward a clear decision together about whether to repair your relationship or move toward separation.
Do you offer individual Discernment Counseling?
Please contact me to discuss. Or see my individual website: Brave Season Therapy.
What if one of us has already decided to leave?
If one partner has fully made up their mind to leave, Discernment Counseling may not be helpful. Instead, mediation or a therapist specializing in separation might be a better fit.
Should you do couples counseling if you're thinking of divorce?
If you're unsure about staying in your relationship, Discernment Counseling is a better option than traditional couples therapy. It's a decision-making process you go through before deciding whether to divorce.
Unlike traditional couples counseling, which is designed for couples who are both ready to work on their relationship, Discernment Counseling assumes that one or both of you is not sure. It helps you figure out whether you have the energy and commitment to try to repair your relationship or if moving to separation and divorce is the better choice.
Can Discernment Counseling help us stay together?
It’s not designed to fix your relationship problems but rather to help you determine if you are willing and committed to working on them. If you both choose to commit to rebuilding, you can transition into couples therapy.
What if we decide to separate?
If separation is the decision, Discernment Counseling can help you navigate the process with greater understanding and respect, reducing unnecessary conflict, and setting you up for a more collaborative divorce process.
What if we still feel unsure after five sessions of Discernment Counseling?
Discernment Counseling is designed to be short-term - typically up to five sessions. It is time-limited by design, balancing urgency with enough space to really think.
One of the options is to maintain the status quo and do nothing. But most couples want to move out of limbo, and this time limit helps make that possible.
For Couples Considering Divorce
Discernment Counseling for Couples Considering Divorce in MA, CT, WA, & FL
I provide online Discernment Counseling for couples in Boston, Cambridge, and throughout Massachusetts who are questioning whether to stay together, separate, or divorce.
Discernment Counseling offers a structured, supportive space to slow down, gain clarity, and explore your options- especially when one partner is unsure about continuing the relationship.
Serving couples throughout Boston, Cambridge, Somerville, Arlington, Belmont, Watertown, Wellesley, Worcester, Quincy, Acton, Andover, and across Massachusetts.
Connecticut – Hartford – New Haven – Stamford – Norwalk – Greenwich – Westport – Fairfield – Glastonbury – Simsbury – throughout Connecticut
Washington – Seattle – Bellevue – Redmond – Kirkland – Tacoma – Spokane – Olympia – Bellingham – Vancouver – throughout Washington
Florida – Miami – Tampa – Orlando – Jacksonville – St. Petersburg – Naples – Sarasota – Boca Raton – Fort Lauderdale – throughout Florida
You don't need to stay in limbo - you have options when you're considering divorce but unsure.