What is this powerful couples
therapy called EFT?
EFT is called the gold standard in couples therapy for a reason.
Studies show that the changes couples make in Emotionally Focused Therapy last well beyond therapy itself. One follow-up study found continued increases in relationship satisfaction and secure attachment even two years after therapy ended.**
Sue Johnson, the founder, had this beautiful vision for couples therapy. Not cognitively giving couples a way to reach and repair - even after significant relationship injuries - but creating a way, in session, for couples to actually experience bonding moments.
So EFT becomes more than just talk.
In an experiential way, your nervous systems begin to feel the power of emotion meeting emotion. You begin to feel the power of vulnerable reaches. And when couples start to feel that happening between them, something shifts - they become brave.
(And if you’re someone who thinks, I’m just not very emotional, I want you to know this: if you breathe, you have emotions. In our work together, we simply slow things down and help you find words for what’s already there -and communicate it in a way that feels authentic to you.)
And when couples begin to experience these moments together, something else starts to happen.
It makes you want to become more flexible in how you respond to your partner - even when you’re feeling triggered.
It helps you catch your tender spots and share them.
It helps you stay in the room for the hard conversations.
It helps you open your heart more without being defensive or prickly.
It helps you reach harder for your person in moments of panic, hurt, or anger.
And something else begins to happen too. Because you become braver and more capable in your relationship, you begin to feel better about yourself.
Relationships stop feeling like these confusing battlegrounds where you’re trying to apply skills you can’t seem to master.
You know what feels good - because we practice it in session.
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