Kimberly Schildbach Therapy
Online Couples Therapy and Discernment Counseling in Washington, Massachusetts, Connecticut, & Florida.
Meet Kimberly Schildbach
Specialized Support For Couples in Crisis
Certified Discernment Counselor
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist
Infidelity and Betrayal Specialist
Sex-Therapy-Trained Couples Therapist
Educator/Consultant for Therapists
Meet Kimberly (she/her)
I'm Kimberly Schildbach
but Kim works just fine.
I help couples heal, rebuild, and rediscover the feelings and ease they felt when they first fell in love.
The Tools You Need
When the Math Ain't Mathing
You've done all.the.things and nothing's working. You've tried the hard, you've tried the soft, you've waited for calm, you've tried to fight back and the math ain't mathing - nothing is changing, nothing is getting better. You're lost in a argument or stale-mate with your best friend and it's the worst.
You can run a household, litigate cases, run the finances for a corporation, or cure cancer, for crying out loud. So why can’t you figure out how not to fight about the toilet paper, say what you actually feel, stop turning to others, substances, or porn for comfort (when what you really want is comfort from your partner)?
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That’s where I come in, because I know you can fix this. I will give you the tools to be great at your relationship. I know how to stay steady as the defenses come and the storms threaten to carry you both away. I know the things you need to do to get you on the same team, or walk you through the agonizing process of trying to decide whether to work on your relationship or divorce.
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I’m persistent and focused and funny (ask anyone), and I care a whole awful lot (which is the most important part).
A Bit About Me
I’m a wife (who tries, and fails, not to fight with her husband). I'm an adoptive and bio mom (who tries, and fails, not to lose her cool). Basically I'm just a regular old human with a special talent.
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I've always cared a lot about relationships (possibly because the adults around me were clueless) and that little tender spot helped me become the amazing therapist I am today.
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I’m grounded in EFT, Discernment Counseling, Parts Work, Attachment Science, and trauma-informed care. After two decades with couples on the edge, I trust these approaches because I’ve watched them work - again and again.
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I welcome all couples, including LGBTQ+ couples, polyamorous couples, couples where one or both of you are sex workers, and neurodiverse couples. Our sessions will be a little bubble of understanding where I strive to stretch you to take the risks that will bring you the big rewards while also honoring who you are.
I help couples move their dial from “aha” to action.
Guiding Principles
Confidentiality
My clients are highly successful individuals. Your confidentiality is of the utmost importance to me. Our online sessions are held on my HIPAA compliant platform. Emails are sent from my HIPAA compliant Google Workspace.
Effective Treatment
I use evidence based tools such as Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Discernment Counseling and I’ll reference our last session so you actually keep moving forward instead of spinning your wheels.
Connection
I know that connection and the therapeutic alliance is key to the success of therapy. You will find me spending the last moments of sessions checking in to see how we're doing. Our work will always be relevant to your success.
Collaboration
I work in a collaborative manner. You are welcome to ask questions about the course of therapy or inquire as to where and why I'm leading you where I'm leading you. I'm happy to share the reigns with you.
Supporting Neurodiverse Relationships
If you're part of a neurodiverse relationship, you are welcome here - whether diagnosed, undiagnosed, self-identified, exploring, or simply recognizing yourself in the language of neurodiversity.
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I have extensive experience working with couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent.
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and our work together will always be flexible, experiential, and tailored to the way you naturally think, process emotions, communicate, and connect.
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The goal is to get you the best version of your relationship.
Licensure, Certifications, and Trainings
Because I work exclusively with couples, I invest heavily in advanced training, consultation, and certification programs to stay at the forefront of the most effective approaches.
Education and Licensure: M.Ed. in Multicultural Education from UMass Amherst M.Ed. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Springfield College Licensed Mental Health Counselor - Massachusetts #6755 Connecticut Professional Counselor - Connecticut #8256 LMHC Florida Telehealth Registration - TPMC5433 LMHC in Washington (MHC.LH.61689893) LMHC Vermont Telehealth Registration - 068.0135181TELE Certification in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (in process) Certification in Discernment Counseling
Trainings: ICEEFT - Approved Externship with Terri Murphy and James Hawkins - 4 days of focused training Core Skills in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) -  with Ryan Raina - 4 days of advanced EFT training. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Healing Trauma in Couples with Kathryn Rheem and Jennifer Olden. Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) Level 1 Certificate Course.​ Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) Level 2 Certificate Course. AIRM - Attachment Injury Repair Model - Healing for infidelity or other attachment injuries and betrayals.  Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) for Grief: Attachment-Based Interventions to Move Clients Through Loss into Growth and Resilience Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy for Attachment Trauma with Leanne Campbell Tango EFT x Steps and Stages. Rapid Role Plays: Micro Skills for Stage 1 and Stage 2 in EFT. Move 1: Laying a Foundation for a More Present Embodied Tango Training. EFT Cafe - ongoing training with real couples and office hours. Substance Abuse Training from The Recovery Centers of America. Reproductive Trauma and Attachment Training: EFT for Individuals and Couples Facing Infertility and Pregnancy Loss with Kristy Koser, PHD, LPCC Healing Affairs: The Power of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Scott Woolley PhD - two day training Discernment Counseling Certification Training from The Doherty Institute Fighting for Connection:  EFT When Couples Suffer With High Escalation and Violence: two day training - online Beyond Betrayals Masterclass: Finding Hope and Healing through EFCT From Story to Cycle: Strengthening EFT Tango Move 1 Advanced Fighting for Connection Masterclass: Working with Couples with IPV Through an Attachment Lens Open, Poly, Consensual, Swinging, Monogamish And More Vanessa Carlisle - Sex Work 101: Understanding the Stigma Integrative Sex Therapy for Couples: EFT, Attachment, Polyvagal, Somatic & Sensate Strategies for Rekindling Desire
