It's time to feel confident in your life, your relationships, and yourself.
Kimberly Schildbach, M.Ed. - trained Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor,
Emotionally Focused Couples and Individual Therapist.
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You used to be best friends but now you live like strangers. When you try to bring it up another fight ensues and you both retreat to your corners to tend to your wounds. You remember a time when a fight brought a tender apology or a make up session. Now it just leaves you both alone and confused.
You know there's still good stuff in your relationship, if you could just stop fighting or retreating into silence.
As an executive or CEO you're juggling so much. You're wondering if it's just you that struggles with feelings of guilt, worries about funding, struggling with loving what you do but also wanting to start or expand your family.
You didn't think your success would make it all so hard.
You've come to the right place.
Are you ready to let go of shame, uncertainty, and overwhelm?
My Approach To Therapy
My style of therapy is collaborative and client centered. Right from the start I want to know what it feels like to be you - in your life, in your relationships, when you're struggling. I'll ask for your feedback in all issues even down to the words I use. I want to know how YOU see what is happening in your relationship. Relationships come in all forms and styles and I'm not here to lead you to another way of being. I'm here to help you sort out why it hurts so much and how to lay down your swords and really connect again.
I help high achieving, successful, and high profile individuals like yourself put themselves and their relationships first.
I help partners learn to turn towards each other again.
My therapy sessions have no homework, no extra reading. For couples, you'll be learning new ways of being together in session.
I'll help slow the both of you down so you can really hear each other.
We'll work to get you back to the place when you fell in love, when you felt close and connected. You can get there again, no matter what the both of you have been through, you can revive your relationship.
For individuals, we'll work together to root out the shame and uncertainty that keeps you stuck.
If you're grieving, we'll spend sessions tuning in to what is happening in your heart as you navigate this difficult period.
I'll be your support, so you can go back into your life and be amazing.
And that is the best feeling in the world.
Q & A
How do I know I can open up and trust you?
It's absolutely normal to feel hesitant to talk to a therapist. Please know that I'm committed to your comfort, safety, and security. As an ally in your healing, I'm constantly reevaluating what is best for you. I'm not all ego and techniques, I don't get offended easily. You are the expert on your life so you won't find me pressuring you to think or act in a certain way. I want you to have the best experience possible. I do that by being trust worthy, non judgmental, and kind.
How do I know that you won't judge me or side with my partner? I've made some big mistakes.
When we make mistakes, especially when those mistakes hurt the ones we love, we can feel great shame and regret. We want to bury that secret deep down and not let the light touch it. I'm here to tell you that hiding your mistakes is no way to live.
Allowing that secret, that regret, that betrayal to get some light is what allows it to lose its' hold over us.
I will always support you while you share with your partner. Sharing secrets can hurt at first, but ultimately being open and honest will help your bond as a couple.
We are all doing the best we can and I acknowledge that although you might have made mistakes, you are not a mistake. You can fix your life and relationships and I'm committed to helping you get there.
Clinical Experience
I am dedicated to providing you with the highest quality care. I continuously invest in my professional development through ongoing training and certifications to ensure I am equipped with the latest tools and techniques to support your healing journey.
Education and Licensure
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M.Ed. in Multicultural Education from UMass Amherst
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M.Ed. in Marriage and Family Therapy from Springfield College
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Licensed Mental Health Counselor (Massachusetts #6755)
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Florida Telehealth Registration (TPMC5433)
Training
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ICEEFT - Approved Externship with Terri Murphy and James Hawkins -4 days of training
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Core Skills in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) - with Ryan Raina - 4 days of training.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Healing Trauma in Couples
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) Level 1 Certificate Course.
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) Level 2 Certificate Course.
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AIRM - Attachment Injury Repair Model - Healing for infidelity or other attachment injuries and betrayals.
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) for Grief: Attachment-Based Interventions to Move Clients Through Loss into Growth and Resilience
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy for Attachment Trauma with Leanne Campbell
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Tango EFT x Steps and Stages.
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Rapid Role Plays: Micro Skills for Stage 1 and Stage 2 in EFT.
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Move 1: Laying a Foundation for a More Present Embodied Tango Training.
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EFT Cafe - ongoing training with real couples and office hours.
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Substance Abuse Training from The Recovery Centers of America.
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Healing Affairs and Repairing Attachment Injuries with Leanne Campbell, PhD and David R Fairweather, Ph.D.
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Reproductive Trauma and Attachment Training: EFT for Individuals and Couples Facing Infertility and Pregnancy Loss with Kristy Koser, PHD, LPCC
Are we a good fit?
We are a good fit if....
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You really want to heal the relationship with your partner, know more about what makes you tick, and keep those changes for the long haul.
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You want a therapist that gently challenges you and is committed to your growth.
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You want understanding and compassion as you learn to change.
We might not be a good fit if.....
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The primary goal is to obtain advice or quick fixes rather than engaging in deeper emotional exploration and relationship work.
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If engaging in couples therapy, one or both partners are unwilling to actively participate in the process of change.
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You’re not yet convinced that therapy brings about real transformation.
I help clients navigate relationship challenges, whether that be with self or others. Motivation and willpower won't cut it. I'll help you go to the heart of the matter.
Guiding Principles
Confidentiality
Many of my clients are successful, high profile individuals. Your confidentiality is of high importance to me. I conduct my online sessions on my HIPAA compliant platform - Simple Practice. Emails are sent from my HIPAA compliant Google Workspace.
Connection
We know that connection and the therapeutic alliance is key to the success of therapy. You will find me spending the last moments of sessions checking in to see how we're doing. If at any point, you believe you would be better served by another therapist, I will help you find him/her/them.
Effective Treatment
I use evidence based treatment such as Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy. I'm committed to ongoing training and certification to give you the highest level of care.
Collaboration
I work in a collaborative manner. You are welcome to ask questions about the course of therapy or inquire as to where and why I'm leading you where I'm leading you. I am honored you've chosen to partner with me for your mental health care.
Specializing in....
Couples Counseling
Online in all of Massachusetts
Break free from the cycle of defensiveness and distrust. Rebuild a stronger, more fulfilling connection. Find healing after infidelity or other relationship injuries.
Individual Therapy
Online in all of Massachusetts
Anxiety, depression, PTSD—Emotionally Focused Therapy can help you regain confidence and a secure sense of self.
For individuals, CEOs and busy professionals, I offer focused therapy intensives—no interruptions, no wasted time, just deep, impactful work.
Couples Therapy Intensives
Online in all of Massachusetts
Accelerate your healing journey. Intensive therapy options: choose from mini-intensives, one-day retreats, or two-day immersions. These concentrated sessions can be a standalone experience or a precursor to ongoing intensive therapy.