You want to heal your relationship, but you feel lost about what to do next.
Does this sound like you?
Feeling Stuck: Every argument feels like a loop - they leave you frustrated, disconnected, and misunderstood. You wonder if you'll ever really hear each other again.
Communication Breakdowns: You want to be heard and understood, but every attempt at conversation ends in conflict or silence, leaving both of you isolated in the same room.
Infidelity: Trust has been broken, and even when you try to move forward, the betrayal lingers - creating fear, doubt, and endless “what ifs” that you can’t navigate alone.
Emotional Distance: You miss the closeness and safety you once felt, but the distance between you feels impossible to bridge without guidance.
If this resonates, you’re in the right place—couples therapy is the medicine your relationship needs right now.
How EFT Couples Therapy Transforms Relationships
Online Couples Therapy in Quincy, Massachusetts
Stop the Same Fights from Repeating
Repeated arguments aren’t character flaws - they’re patterns your relationship has fallen into. I help you identify these cycles, uncover the emotions driving your triggers, and learn to communicate in ways that break the loop. Together, we replace walls of distance with genuine connection, addressing the root of your struggles instead of skimming the surface.
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Repair Faster When Conflicts Arise
When fights happen, I guide you to notice when your old patterns are taking over. I help you take responsibility for your part, express sincere regret, and turn conflicts into opportunities to reconnect - so arguments become powerful bonding moments.
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Support Each Other Through Life’s Ups and Downs
Life will throw curveballs, and I teach you how to become each other’s safe harbor. I show you how to turn toward your partner in stressful times, share the weight of challenges, and strengthen your bond even when life feels overwhelming. If you or your partner has turned out of the relationship to porn or sexual secrecy - we process that too so turning in becomes the norm.
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Heal from Infidelity
If trust has been broken, I provide a structured, safe space for you to express hurt and regret. I guide the injured partner in articulating their pain in a way the injuring partner can truly hear and absorb. At the same time, I help the injuring partner share a responsible, honest narrative about how the injury occurred and take full accountability. When the injured partner sees their pain genuinely reflected and the injuring partner fully owns their role, this becomes the beginning of powerful repair - leaving your relationship stronger and more connected than before the injury.
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Bring Back Intimacy and Desire
I help you build emotional safety and attunement, the foundation for desire and intimacy to reemerge. In couples therapy, differences in sexual needs, wants, and expectations are normal - our brains are deeply wired for connection and attachment, and sex is a big part of our connection to each other. We’ll talk about it all - performance pressures, mismatched desire, and unspoken needs - and as safety and openness grow, we’ll uncover ways for desire to return naturally.
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Resolve Long-Standing Conflict or Betrayal
I guide you to safely share vulnerabilities, grieve mistakes, release resentment, and rebuild trust. Together, we restore teamwork and alignment, turning past struggles into a stronger, unified partnership.
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Build a Partnership That Thrives
I help you move beyond “me vs. you,” slammed doors, and heavy silences. You’ll learn how to reach for each other in new, vulnerable ways, building the foundation for a partnership that is resilient and thriving.
Discernment Counseling: When You're Not Sure You Want to Stay - But You're Not Sure You Want to Leave
Not every couple is ready to dive straight into full couples therapy. Many find themselves in a difficult, in-between space - unsure if staying together is possible or even the right choice. Discernment Counseling is designed specifically for this moment.
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This is a focused, time-limited process, usually between one and five sessions, that helps couples step out of chaos and uncertainty and into clarity. There’s no pressure to repair the relationship or make an immediate decision. Instead, we slow things down to explore how you got here, identify recurring patterns, and examine the personal and relational changes that would be needed for the relationship to move forward in a healthier way.
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Discernment Counseling isn’t about convincing anyone to stay or leave. It’s about helping you make a grounded, informed choice. If you’re torn between holding on and letting go, this process provides a structured, compassionate path to clarity - so your next steps, whatever they are, feel intentional and supported.
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You can read more about how the process works on my Discernment Counseling page.
What to Expect in EFT Sessions
Online Couples Therapy in Quincy, Massachusetts
Your First Session: Mapping the Patterns
We start together as a couple. I explain how the sessions will work and then guide you in identifying the recurring patterns that keep you stuck - like withdrawal, escalation, or emotional shutdown. Together, we pinpoint the cycles that fuel hurt and frustration, so you can see how your interactions maintain the conflict and where change is possible.
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Individual Sessions: Your Story, Your Perspective
In the next sessions, I meet with each of you individually. This is your time to share your experiences, reflect on your role in the relationship, and explore what you need from your partner and from the process. We'll explore the templates from your family of origin and see how these template impact your current relationship.
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Targeting Moments of Disconnection
I help you slow down and focus on the moments when connection breaks - during arguments, when emotions spike, or when one of you feels unseen or hurt. We uncover the underlying feelings that drive your responses, giving you tools to express them safely so your partner can truly hear and respond. This is how we get to the root of your struggles.
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Repairing Trust After Betrayal
If betrayal has occurred, including infidelity, I guide conversations so the injured partner can express their pain fully, while the other partner learns to take responsibility and show genuine understanding. This creates space for processing grief, rebuilding trust, and beginning to reconnect in a meaningful way.
Your Relationship Feels Fragile, and You Can’t Keep Pretending
You’re both exhausted from fighting, freezing out, or pretending everything is fine. You still care, but you don’t know how to reach each other anymore.
Couples therapy gives you a structured space to stop spinning, face the patterns, and actually reconnect - or finally understand what’s really going on.
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Stop waiting for things to magically get better - take the proven step for real change.
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Therapy in Quincy, Massachusetts
We keep having the same fights - can therapy actually help us break the cycle?
Yes. Most arguments aren’t about the surface issues - they’re about unmet emotional needs and old patterns. I guide you to see the cycles that trap you, uncover the feelings beneath the conflict, and teach you how to respond in ways your partner can actually hear. This is about changing how you connect when you're in pain, not just what you argue about.
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My partner and I barely talk anymore - can therapy bring us back together?
Absolutely. Emotional disconnection is usually a protective response, not a permanent sentence. We shut down our hearts when safety feels uncertain. If one of you is truly leaning out, Discernment Counseling may be a better first step to gain clarity before committing to full couples therapy.
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One of us had an affair - can couples therapy really help us recover from that?
Again, absolutely. It may be hard to believe now, but your relationship can grow stronger through the repair that comes from healing. In EFT, we use a structured framework called the Attachment Injury Repair Model (AIRM). This process allows the hurt partner to fully express their pain while guiding the other partner to take real responsibility. When each partner feels truly seen and heard, trust and connection can begin to rebuild - and the relationship can emerge stronger than it was before. This approach addresses the root of the issues, not just the surface symptoms. While the partner who stepped out is fully responsible for the injury, the underlying dynamics in the relationship also need attention for lasting repair.
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Do I have to share everything in therapy?
In reality, yes. Secrets tend to come out, and when they do, the damage is often far greater than if they had been disclosed earlier. A supported, intentional disclosure - shared with honesty and accountability rather than defensiveness - can significantly reduce harm and create a stronger foundation for healing.
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How long will it take before we feel any difference?
Because we’re clearing the pain in the space between you, it may feel worse before it feels better. Over time, you’ll notice new ways of interacting begin to take root, and small changes start to build on each other. Think of it like going to the gym - progress is gradual at first, but once it starts, the benefits accumulate quickly. The key is showing up consistently, summoning the courage to be vulnerable, and leaning in emotionally, even when it feels uncomfortable.
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Can therapy help with sex and intimacy issues?
Yes - but we start with connection first. Sexual desire, pleasure, and closeness are wired through emotional safety, attachment, and trust - not just physical attraction. I help you uncover blocks, talk openly about mismatched desire, performance pressures, and unspoken needs, and rebuild attunement so your connection isn’t just safe - it’s electric.
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What makes Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) different from other approaches?
EFT isn’t just about better communication or solving problems - it’s about emotional connection. It helps you uncover the feelings driving arguments, withdrawal, or distance and guides you to respond in ways that build safety, trust, and closeness. That’s why it’s widely regarded as the gold standard in couples therapy.​
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Is it worth trying therapy if we’ve been stuck for years?
Yes. It’s never “too late” to improve your relationship. Even couples with long-standing conflict or past betrayals can learn to reconnect and create healthier patterns. Therapy provides tools and support to break cycles that may feel impossible to change on your own. DIYing it rarely helps for long and can make negative patterns become more entrenched.​
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Can therapy help after infidelity or broken trust?
Absolutely. Healing after betrayal is about facing the hurt head-on - letting your partner’s pain in, putting defensiveness aside, and showing them you truly feel it. The injuring partner gets space to speak honestly and responsibly about what happened and how it came to be. This is where real repair begins - when both partners feel seen, heard, and understood. We even have a model without our model called AIRM that helps us structure the sessions for maximum impact.
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What if we’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t work?
I don’t just rely on surface-level skills or “I statements” that collapse when emotions spike. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is proven to help couples - even years after treatment - but I pair it with trauma-informed care, parts work, and Attachment Theory. I see almost every type of couple, and my extensive experience allows me to spot patterns, de-escalate conflict, and guide real change. I’m constantly training and refining my approach to couples work, so you’re not just trying therapy again - you’re doing it in a way that actually works.
Romantic and Fun Activities for Couples in Quincy, MA
1. Stroll Along Wollaston Beach
Enjoy a relaxing walk along Quincy’s scenic coastline at Wollaston Beach. Stop for fresh seafood at Tony’s Clam Shop or The Clam Box for a casual date by the water.
2. Explore Marina Bay
Take in stunning views of the Boston skyline while dining at waterfront restaurants like Siros or 16C. Marina Bay offers romantic vibes and vibrant nightlife for couples.
3. Visit the Adams National Historical Park
Dive into history by touring the birthplaces of John Adams and John Quincy Adams. Stroll through beautiful gardens and connect over shared learning.
4. Take a Hike in Blue Hills Reservation
Just a short drive from Quincy, Blue Hills Reservation offers scenic trails for hiking or picnicking, perfect for nature-loving couples seeking an active date.
5. Discover Local Breweries
Sample craft beers together at Widowmaker Brewing or Granite Coast Brewing Company. A relaxed atmosphere and great drinks make for a perfect low-key date.
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