What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?
Kimberly Schildbach
Online Couples Therapy in
MA, CT, WA, & FL
EFT is your most powerful tool for personal growth and relationship transformation.
Discernment Counseling in Boston and all of MA, CT, WA, & FL
Discernment Counseling is a specialized approach designed for couples at a crossroads, helping them decide whether to work on their relationship or separate. In this process, partners explore their feelings, gain clarity about their options, and decide on the best path forward. It is a structured, time-limited process (usually up to 5 sessions.) We meet all together and I'll meet with each of you individually to help you discern where you stand. When combined with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which focuses on emotional bonds and attachment, Discernment Counseling becomes even more impactful. EFT helps couples understand the emotional dynamics at play in their relationship, fostering deep self-understanding and empathy. This combination allows couples to assess their relationship through a more compassionate and insightful lens, guiding them toward a decision that aligns with their true needs.
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples in Boston and all of MA, CT, WA, & FL
Using my training in EFT I can help you both:
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Understand the unique dance that takes over in times of conflict and stress. This dance can leave couples baffled, wondering what triggered the tension.
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Once we understand this dynamic, we'll work together to help you identify and express your feelings. Even if you don't consider yourself emotionally expressive, I can help you tap into your emotions and communicate them effectively.
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Our work together will help you learn to share your feelings with your partner in a clear, honest, and respectful way, even during challenging times.
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Understanding your feelings can help break negative patterns and create a new, positive cycle. While conflict can't be eliminated, it doesn't have to lead to disconnection and long arguments. By practicing new skills in our sessions, you'll grow as a couple and strengthen your relationship.
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If your relationship has experienced infidelity, my training in the Attachment Injury Repair Model can help you and your partner heal and rebuild trust.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy for High-Conflict Couples in Boston and all of MA, CT, WA, & FL
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a proven approach designed to help couples break free from the destructive patterns that fuel high conflict. High-conflict couples often find themselves stuck in cycles of blame, defensiveness, and emotional withdrawal, where the issues feel impossible to resolve. EFT helps couples identify the deeper emotional needs that underlie these patterns and create a safe space for both partners to express their true feelings. Through structured sessions, EFT guides couples to develop a better understanding of each other’s emotional world, fostering empathy and connection. By addressing the root causes of conflict, EFT enables couples to shift from fighting to collaborating, building healthier, more fulfilling relationships.