When Something Fundamental
Has Shifted Between You
When couples come to me, they’re exhausted by a pattern they can’t break on their own. One partner is reaching for closeness, reassurance, or answers after a betrayal. The other is shutting down, not because they don’t care, but because they are overwhelmed, ashamed, and defensive and don't know what else to do - nothing they've tried seems to work.
These high-stakes situations - the aftermath of infidelity, sexual betrayal, affairs, and the hopelessness leading to relentless bickering, shutdowns, and the possibility of divorce - aren’t the place for slow, exploratory therapy.
You need hope - or you need a way out of limbo.
This is about finding out how your relationship can be repaired - or whether it’s already starting to end.
It is structured, focused work, designed specifically for your relationship.
This is not weekly therapy as usual. We are not circling the same arguments for months. We are not staying at the surface of communication skills. We are not doing "find the bad guy" therapy.
This is for couples who are ready to do the emotional work to repair their relationship - or to make a clear, honest decision about whether to try.
This is where “something better” stops being just an idea - and becomes something you can actually move toward.
How I Help
Specialized couples therapy in all of Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
Couples Therapy
Repair Work
Your relationship has become more about conflict than connection. You're great at dealing with the logistics of life but you feel more like roommates than lovers. You're tearing through life, making deals (breaking hearts) but your lives are running in parallel rather than on the same track. And the worst thing is, you can see the distance growing but have no idea what to do about it.
When you're ready to stop having the repeated arguments (heard it all!) where nothing changes. You picked each other for a reason - couples therapy helps you slow things down enough to remember what brought you together, and rebuild from there.
Also offering couples therapy intensives - extended sessions to begin healing fast.
Therapy for Infidelity
Repair Work
You’re in the aftermath of an affair or breach of trust (current or in the past) and you're tired of having the same argument on repeat. For the injured partner who can’t focus on normal life because your mind keeps pulling them back - to the disclosure, to the images, to the lies. For the partner who wants to repair the relationship but keeps getting it wrong - offering apologies that don’t land, becoming defensive when they feel accused, or wondering how you did this to someone you love.
When the two of you have said it all and it still isn't getting you closer to feeling good with each other. Couples therapy for infidelity helps give you the tools you need to talk about the affair and all your relationship's difficulties so you can risk hoping again.
Sexless Relationships & Marriages
Repair Work
The physical connection between you has faded - or disappeared entirely. At first, you told yourselves it was temporary. Stress. Young children. Busy schedules. A difficult season. But weeks turned into months. Months turned into years. Now every conversation about intimacy feels loaded, awkward, or ends before it even begins.
The bed that once felt like a place of comfort, laughter, and connection has become a silent reminder of the distance between you. You miss being desired. You miss wanting each other. You miss feeling chosen. Beneath the frustration, there's hurt. Beneath the hurt, there's loneliness. And beneath the loneliness is the painful question neither of you quite knows how to ask: What happened to us?
Because the real question isn't how often you're having sex. It's what happened to the connection that made you want each other in the first place. Let's change that.
Discernment Counseling
Decision Work
You’re leaning toward divorce - but still unsure - and your conversations keep repeating themselves, without resolution. You’re trapped in a circular argument with yourself - stay? go? stay? You’re exhausted by this feeling of limbo and uncertainty and you're ready to find a way out.
Discernment Counseling is a proven, supportive process to help you decide whether you have the energy to fully commit to rebuilding the relationship or to separate in a way that is respectful and based on a carefully thought-out decision. So you can look back and say, “We did everything we could to make the best decision.”
About Me
Kimberly Schildbach
MEd, LMHC, MFT
Certified Discernment Counselor
she/her
MY APPROACH
I work with couples in a moment of crisis - facing infidelity, battered by high conflict, sexual secrecy, relationships on the brink of separation – when trust has been broken, emotions are escalating, or one of you is no longer sure the relationship can continue.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Discernment Counseling to help you understand the patterns driving disconnection and get clear about whether repair is possible and what it would require.
Therapy is not one-size-fits-all. I tailor the process to the way you naturally think, feel, communicate, and connect. I want you to have the best version of your relationship.
SELECTIVE BY DESIGN
I work with a small, carefully selected number of couples so I can stay deeply focused on your process.
This work requires honesty, emotional risk, and a willingness to look at your role in the dynamic.
It is not a fit for every couple.
