Kimberly Schildbach Therapy
Rebuild Trust, Connection & Hope in Your Relationship
When Something Fundamental
Has Shifted Between You
When couples come to me, they’re exhausted by a pattern they can’t break on their own. One partner is reaching for closeness, reassurance, or answers after a betrayal. The other is shutting down, not because they don’t care, but because they are overwhelmed, ashamed, and defensive and don't know what else to do - nothing they've tried seems to work.
These high-stakes situations - the aftermath of infidelity, sexual betrayal, affairs, compulsive sexual behavior, and the hopelessness leading to relentless bickering, shutdowns, and the possibility of divorce - aren’t the place for slow, exploratory therapy.
You need hope - or you need a way out of limbo.
This is about finding out how your relationship can be repaired - or whether it’s already starting to end.
It is structured, focused work, designed specifically for your relationship.
This is not weekly therapy as usual. We are not circling the same arguments for months. We are not staying at the surface of communication skills. We are not doing "find the bad guy" therapy.
This is for couples who are ready to do the emotional work to repair their relationship - or to make a clear, honest decision about whether to try.
This is where “something better” stops being just an idea - and becomes something you can actually move toward.
How I Help
Specialized therapy services for couples in all of Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
You’re in the aftermath of an affair or breach of trust (current or in the past) and you're tired of having the same argument on repeat.
For the injured partner who can’t focus on normal life because their mind keeps pulling them back - to the disclosure, to the images, to the lies.
For the partner who wants to repair the relationship but keeps getting it wrong - offering apologies that don’t land, becoming defensive when they feel accused, or wondering how they did this to someone they love. When the two of you have said it all and it still isn't getting you closer to feeling aligned or good with each other.
Couples therapy for infidelity helps give you the support you need to talk about the affair and all your relationship's difficulties without bickering, shutting down, or walking away.
You’re leaning toward divorce - but still unsure - and one of you wants to repair, and your conversations keep repeating themselves, without resolution.
There may have been a recent crisis, or a slow erosion over time. Disconnection has taken over and you’re trapped in a circular argument with yourself - stay? go? stay?
You’re exhausted by this feeling of limbo and uncertainty and you're ready to find a way out.
Discernment Counseling is a proven, supportive process to help you decide whether you have the energy to fully commit to rebuilding the relationship or to separate in a way that is respectful and based on a carefully thought-out decision. So you can look back and say, “We did everything we could to make the best decision.”
Your relationship has become more about conflict than connection. You're great at dealing with the logistics of life but you feel more like roommates than lovers. You're tearing through life, making deals (breaking hearts) but your lives are running in parallel rather than in on the same track. And the worst thing is, you can see the distance growing but have no idea what to do about it.
Couples therapy will help you stop having repeated argument (heard it all!) where nothing changes. In our sessions, you learn how to talk to each other in a different way, with my help, so therapy becomes practical and useful.
You picked each other for a reason - couples therapy helps you slow things down enough to remember what brought you together, and rebuild from there.
A couples therapy intensive allows you the time you need to settle in and contact the painful emotions that are walled off in normal life. It gives you the guidance you need to respond without reacting so your conversations can actually feel like moving forward instead of spinning your wheels. It gives you time to apologize, to feel the apology, to linger while feeling something different taking place.
You’ve found out your partner has been having a secret sexual life that you weren’t invited to. You’ve found the porn, or the messages, or the evidence that the work trip wasn’t only work. Now you can’t relax, wondering what else you don’t know, and you not trusting your partner’s apologies and regret.
If you’re the partner who turned away from the relationship, or whose patterns they haven’t been able to stop, you might be sitting in regret and shame - wondering how you became the person who keeps secrets and wounds the one you love.
Neither of you can talk about this without well-worn moves of defensiveness, blowing up, or shutting down.
Couples therapy for sexual betrayal and porn addiction helps stop the conversations that keep failing and end up hurting one or both of you more. We bring those conversations into the room so there is structure and support for both of you - so you’re not trying to survive them alone at home, and so something different can actually begin to happen between you.
About Me
Kimberly Schildbach
M.Ed., LMHC, MFT
Certified Discernment Counselor
she/her
My Approach
I work with couples in a moment of crisis - facing infidelity, battered by high conflict, sexual secrecy, relationships on the brink of separation – when trust has been broken, emotions are escalating, or one of you is no longer sure the relationship can continue.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Discernment Counseling to help you understand the patterns driving disconnection and get clear about whether repair is possible and what it would require.
Therapy is not one-size-fits-all. I tailor the process to the way you naturally think, feel, communicate, and connect - including couples navigating neurodiversity, ADHD, autism, and differing emotional or sensory experiences. I welcome and support all couples, including LGBTQ+ couples, and strive to create a space where both partners feel safe, respected, understood, and supported.
Selective by Design
I work with a small, carefully selected number of couples so I can stay deeply focused on your process.
This work requires honesty, emotional risk, and a willingness to look at your role in the dynamic.
It is not a fit for every couple.
Stop Waiting. Start Knowing.
When your relationship isn’t working, waiting for it to improve on its own without professional guidance means you're actively watching it get worse.
Working with me offers a structured, focused process to help you understand what’s actually happening between you and what you can still repair.
You don’t have to guess your way through this alone. End the confusion now and move towards clarity with my guidance.