Kimberly Schildbach Therapy
Couples Therapy for Relationships in Crisis
Specialized crisis couples work and Discernment Counseling for infidelity, toxic conflict, divorce uncertainty or a dead bedroom
You've talked it to death. You've fought about the affair, the sex, the lies, the lack of sex, the lack of effort, or the fact that one of you seems to care a whole lot more about saving this marriage than the other. Maybe you've threatened divorce so many times that neither of you knows what it means anymore.
Your Tuesday nights are about bickering and picking at each other until there's nothing left. You keep trying to fix things, but the fights never really get repaired. The resentments pile up until you can feel their presence in your home. Taunting you to go another round.
You feel the threat to your family, your legacy, and your home. The worries and unresolved fights keep you up at night, plague you at work, seep into your pores. The future you thought you were creating together. You don't want to watch all of that erode, one fight at a time, but you don't know how to stop it.
The good news is your don't have to know - you need an expert like me to take you out of the spiral.
The high-stakes situation you find yourself in - the aftermath of infidelity, sexual betrayal, affairs, and the hopelessness leading to relentless fighting, shutdowns, and the possibility of divorce - aren’t the place for general therapy.
It is structured, focused work, designed specifically for your relationship.
This is for couples like you who are ready to do the emotional work to repair their relationship - or to make a clear, honest decision about whether to try.
This is where “something better” stops being just an idea - and becomes something you can actually move toward.
HOW I HELP
Specialized couples therapy in all of Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
REPAIR WORK
Couples Therapy
You fight, you avoid each other to cool down, and then you begin again.
You're sick of the endless cycle where one of you feels frozen while the other feels livid, or vice versa.
I know you know a lot of things. But this is the thing I know: I can help you both get out of this endless loop.
When you're ready to stop having the same arguments (heard it all!) where nothing changes, let me help you both get out of the loop.
Also offering couples therapy intensives - extended sessions to address the problem quickly.
REPAIR WORK
Therapy for Infidelity
You're sick of the infidelity taking up so much real estate in your brain. You can't focus on normal life because your mind keeps pulling you back to the moment you found out your partner lied.
And if you're the partner who caused the injury, you want to repair things but don't know how.
This isn't a DIY situation. I can help you talk about the affair in ways that get you closer to feeling good together again.
REPAIR WORK
Sexless Marriage
At first, you told yourselves it was temporary. Stress. Young children. Busy schedules. A difficult season. But weeks without sex turned into months. Months turned into years. Now every conversation about sex feels awkward or ends in a fight. So no one says anything.
You miss feeling desired. You miss wanting each other. You miss feeling chosen.
I can help you repair the way you are with each other so desire can begin to find its way back into your relationship.
DECISION WORK
Discernment Counseling
You’re thinking about divorce, but you’re still unsure. You’re trapped in a circular argument with yourself: stay? go? stay? You’re exhausted by this limbo and uncertainty, and you’re ready to find a way out.
As a Certified Discernment Counselor, I can help you decide.
Discernment Counseling is a time-limited intervention that helps you decide whether to work toward repairing your relationship or move toward divorce.
When you're ready to reach a place where you can say, “We did everything we could to make the best decision,” I can help.
About Me
Kimberly Schildbach
MEd, LMHC, MFT
Certified Discernment Counselor
she/her
MY APPROACH
I work with couples in a moment of crisis - facing infidelity, battered by high conflict, sexual secrecy, relationships on the brink of separation – when trust has been broken, emotions are escalating, or one of you is no longer sure the relationship can continue.
I bring Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Discernment Counseling, and more than 20 years of experience to this work. Together, we’ll identify the patterns driving your disconnection and get clear about whether repair is possible and what it would require.
Therapy is not one-size-fits-all. I tailor the process to the way you naturally think, feel, communicate, and connect.
SELECTIVE BY DESIGN
I work with a small, carefully selected number of couples so I can stay deeply focused on your process.
This work requires honesty, emotional risk, and a willingness to look at your role in the dynamic.
It is not a fit for every couple.
