When Something Fundamental
Has Shifted Between You
When couples come to me, they’re often exhausted by a pattern they can’t break on their own. One partner is reaching for closeness. The other is shutting down, not because they don’t care, but because they are overwhelmed, exhausted and don't know what else to do - nothing they've tried seems to work.
These high-stakes situations - ongoing rupture, emotional shutdown, relentless arguments, or the impact of infidelity or the possibility of divorce - aren’t the place for slow, exploratory therapy.
You need hope - or you need a way out of limbo.
This is about finding out how your relationship can be repaired - or whether it’s already starting to end.
It is structured, focused work, designed specifically for your relationship.
This is not weekly therapy as usual. We are not circling the same arguments for months. We are not staying at the surface of communication skills. We are not doing "find the bad guy" therapy.
This is for couples who are ready to do the emotional work to repair their relationship - or to make a clear, honest decision about whether to try.
This is where “something better” stops being just an idea - and becomes something you can actually move toward.
Online Couples Therapy Services
Specialized therapy services for couples in all of Massachusetts, Connecticut, Washington, and Florida.
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For couples where conflict has become more common than connection
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For couples who can only talk at the level of logistics - not what’s actually happening underneath
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For couples whose lives are running in parallel - and they’re not finding their way back
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For couples who feel the distance growing and can’t seem to interrupt it
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For couples who keep having the same argument - and nothing changes
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For couples in the aftermath of an affair or breach of trust - when everything has been shaken
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For the partner who can’t stop thinking about it, replaying it, trying to make sense of what happened
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For the partner who wants to repair - but needs to do it in a way that actually rebuilds trust
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For couples who don’t know if this can be repaired - or if it changed things too much
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For couples who need to understand not just what happened - but why it happened in their relationship
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For couples where one of you is leaning out - and the other is trying to hold on
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For couples stuck in limbo, going in circles with no real movement
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For couples who don’t know whether to repair - or begin to let the relationship go
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For couples who want a clear, grounded decision - not another round of uncertainty
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For couples who need to decide whether to commit to the work - or separate with intention
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For couples who feel stuck in limbo - one of you leaning in, the other unsure - and the back and forth is exhausting
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For the partner who is questioning whether the relationship can or should continue, but doesn’t want to make that decision impulsively
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For couples who don’t want months of therapy just to figure out whether to stay or go
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For couples who want a structured, honest way to understand what’s happened to the relationship - and what each of you has contributed
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For couples who want to move out of indecision more quickly, using a focused 2-session process to get clarity you can actually act on
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For couples where there’s been secrecy around porn use or sexual behavior, and the trust in the relationship has been shaken
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For the partner who feels hurt, on edge, or unable to relax because something doesn’t feel fully known or resolved
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For the partner who feels stuck in patterns they haven’t been able to stop, and doesn’t know how to talk about it without things blowing up or shutting down
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For couples where every conversation about this turns into defensiveness, shutdown, or the same unresolved fight
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For couples who want to understand what’s underneath the behavior - including attachment patterns and the dynamic between you - not just focus on the behavior itself
About Me
Kimberly Schildbach
M.Ed., LMHC, MFT
Certified Discernment Counselor
she/her
My Approach
I work with couples in a moment of crisis - facing infidelity, battered by high conflict, relationships on the brink of separation – when trust has been broken, emotions are escalating, or one of you is no longer sure the relationship can continue.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Discernment Counseling to help you understand the patterns driving disconnection and get clear about whether repair is possible and what it would require.
Selective by Design
I work with a small, carefully selected number of couples so I can stay deeply focused on your process.
This work requires honesty, emotional risk, and a willingness to look at your role in the dynamic.
It is not a fit for every couple.
Stop Waiting. Start Knowing.
When your relationship isn’t working, waiting for it to improve on its own without professional guidance means you're actively watching it get worse.
Working with me offers a structured, focused process to help you understand what’s actually happening between you and what you can still repair.
You don’t have to guess your way through this alone. End the confusion now and move towards clarity with my guidance.