You’re here, reading this, which means you haven’t given up. That matters. So many people avoid couples therapy because they’re scared it’ll prove the worst—that it’s over. But what if that fear is exactly what keeps you stuck? Loving someone and feeling hurt, distant, or totally off-track doesn’t mean it’s doomed. It means your signals are scrambled. Patterns can heal. You can find your way back to each other—with the right map, the right guide, and a willingness to try.
You want to make it work—you just don’t know how.
That’s where therapy helps.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Newton, Massachusetts
Stop having the same fight
Instead of repeating the same fights where one or both of you shuts down, blames, yells, or avoids the issue—escalating into drawn-out arguments—you’ll learn to identify and sidestep the recurring triggers (that look, a tone of voice, blame or criticism) that set it all off. You’ll learn to navigate even the toughest conversations because you’ll recognize the warning signs that you’re heading down the wrong path and know how to course-correct before things escalate.
When you do fight, you'll learn how to repair quickly
Rather than storming off or staying silent for days, you’ll learn to apologize in a way that truly helps. You’ll take responsibility for your actions and words and express genuine regret, turning conflicts into opportunities for growth in your relationship.
Find the understanding you both crave
Once you uncover what fuels your repeated arguments and misunderstandings, you'll learn to intentionally choose a new direction. Instead of staying walled off in your separate corners; you'll be ready to communicate with the purpose of truly understanding each other.
Support each other during life's transitions
When life throws you a curveball, you'll be each other's rock. I’ll guide you to turn toward your partner during stressful times, so you can face challenges together and make the weight of stress feel lighter..
Recovery from infidelity
Once we’ve established a foundation of safety, I’ll help you express your hurt openly and honestly. I’ll then guide your partner to truly listen and show that they hear and understand you. When you see your pain reflected in their eyes, that’s the moment healing begins—bringing you closer and more connected than ever before.
Bring the sexy feelings back
Safety, connection, and mindful exercises that tune you into your body pave the way for pleasure to flow back in.
Resolve long standing conflict or betrayals
Once you feel safe sharing your more vulnerable thoughts and feelings you'll grieve together the mistakes you've each made. You'll be a team again.
Teamwork will make your relationship blossom
No more "me vs. you," no more slammed doors or heavy silences. You truly understand each other. Now, you're both ready and equipped to share your deepest fears and desires, coming together on every level—emotionally and physically.
Return to the life where you couldn’t wait to be with your partner.
Move from this....
X Every conversation about money/kids/the past becomes a fight which never ends.
X I can't talk to my partner about my stress/worry/sadness.
X My partner doesn't understand me. When I'm worried they turn off the conversation.
X I never know what I'm going to get when I come home. I've lost my best friend.
To this....
I understand that when I withdraw, my partner feels ignored, and when I come on strong, my partner can feel criticized.
I know how to share my worries with my partner and we hold the stress together.
I've learned how to share my sadness and anxieties in a way that my partner can understand.
I'm excited to come home and see my partner. We're that couple, the one other couples envy.
Weeks of Therapy in Just 1-2 Days
Why wait months when you can supercharge your relationship in just 1 or 2 days? A couples therapy intensive lets you fast-track what would normally take many weeks—resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, and sparking new energy in your relationship.
Think of it as therapy on steroids (the good kind)—packed with insights, breakthroughs, and a massive boost to your connection. Get your best friend back and reignite the spark.
The Process of Couples Therapy in Newton, MA
Session one:
couple together
In our first session, we’ll meet together. I’ll quickly walk you through the EFT process and how we’ll work in each session—then we’ll dive right in.
This is where we start uncovering what’s breaking you apart. The behaviors that leave both of you confused. We’ll name the cycles of escalation and withdrawal and how they’ve been feeding the hurt between you.
Once you see the cycle for what it is and how each of you contributes, you’ll realize you have powerful choices to make. Because when each of you finds flexibility in how you respond during arguments, overwhelm, or stress, it can change the entire dynamic of your relationship.
Session two and three: individual sessions
During sessions two and three, I’ll meet with each of you individually to learn more about your family background, relationship history, goals, and concerns. My aim is to build a strong connection with both of you as I work in support of your relationship. Together, we’ll explore your thoughts and emotions, and I may offer alternative perspectives or insights for you to consider.
Session four and beyond:
couple together
I will help you both slow down and focus on those pivotal moments in your interactions where communication falters—whether it’s during escalating arguments, when emotions feel overwhelming, or when one of you feels hurt or dismissed. I will help you uncover the deeper feelings that often get suppressed—those emotions that, when shared, help your partner feel your love and lead to powerful and adhesive bonding moments. If there has been infidelity or other betrayals, I will help guide you through conversations where the betrayed partner can express their pain and feel that their hurt is truly understood and shared so you can grieve this relationship challenge together.
How You Get Lasting Change
I don’t focus on surface fixes. The work I do is about real, lasting change — the kind that transforms how you show up with each other.
First-order change is when you try to improve things by tweaking behaviors — saying things differently, spending more time together — without addressing the deeper emotional patterns underneath. These changes might offer temporary relief, but often, couples end up back in the same painful cycle.
In Emotionally Focused Therapy, we aim for second-order change. We go beyond the surface and get to the heart of the matter — the emotions, needs, and fears that are driving your responses to each other. By shifting the entire emotional pattern, we create new ways of connecting that lead to lasting transformation.
This is the kind of change that doesn’t just feel different — it is different.
Questions and Objections
What if you take my partner's side against me in couples counseling?
This is a valid concern. Friends and coworkers usually "take a side", leaving us feeling judged and ganged up on.
I am specifically trained to connect and understand each member's point of view. Each member has a valid opinion of what has happened. Our sessions will be balanced and fair with each of you having ample time to speak and feel validated.
I'm concerned you will tell us to give up or that I'm wrong? I don't want to feel judged.
You can expect me to be warm, friendly, and easy to talk to. My job is not to judge and not to tell you how to live your life.
My job is to help you both feel heard and to help you hear each other. Behind all the criticisms and hateful things we throw at our partners are emotions that need to be expressed and honored. I can help you identify and express what you're struggling with so your relationships can feel light and easy again.
How do we start couples counseling? I'm ready and I don't want to wait long.
Contact me with any questions or concerns or to schedule your first therapy session. My weekly slots fill up quickly. Need support sooner? Explore my Couples Therapy Intensives: Mini-intensives for ongoing work, or one-day/two-day retreats.
Welcome to Newton, Massachusetts
Newton, Massachusetts, often referred to as “The Garden City,” is a vibrant, historic community located just seven miles west of Boston. Known for its excellent schools, beautiful neighborhoods, and strong sense of community, Newton offers a blend of suburban charm and urban convenience.
A Rich History
Newton’s history dates back to its incorporation in 1688. Originally a part of Cambridge, the town has grown into a thriving city with a deep appreciation for its past. Historic sites, such as the Jackson Homestead and Museum, highlight its role in the Underground Railroad and its significance in New England’s history.
Newton’s Unique Villages
One of Newton’s most distinctive features is its 13 unique villages, each with its own character and charm. Some of the most well-known include:
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Newton Centre: The heart of the city with a bustling mix of shops, restaurants, and a lively town green.
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Newton Highlands: Known for its quaint village atmosphere and locally owned businesses.
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Waban: A picturesque area with tree-lined streets and a strong sense of community.
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Chestnut Hill: Home to luxury shopping at The Street and the Boston College campus.
Education and Schools
Newton is home to one of the top-rated public school systems in Massachusetts, making it a popular choice for families. Newton North and Newton South High Schools are highly regarded for their academic and extracurricular programs. Additionally, the city is home to several private schools and institutions of higher learning, including Lasell University and Boston College.
Parks and Recreation
Newton is aptly named “The Garden City” for its abundance of green spaces and parks.
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Crystal Lake: A favorite spot for swimming, fishing, and picnicking.
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Newton’s Parks and Recreation Programs: Offer a variety of activities for all ages, from sports leagues to arts and crafts classes.
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Charles River Pathways: Ideal for biking, walking, and enjoying the natural beauty of the area.
Arts and Culture
Newton fosters a rich cultural scene with museums, galleries, and performing arts venues. The Newton Cultural Alliance promotes local artists and events, ensuring there’s always something to enjoy. Annual events like the Newton Festival of the Arts and Harvest Fair bring the community together.
Dining and Shopping
Newton offers a diverse range of dining experiences, from casual cafes to upscale restaurants. Villages like Newton Centre and Chestnut Hill boast an array of options to suit any palate. Local boutiques and major retailers coexist, creating a well-rounded shopping experience.
Transportation and Accessibility
Newton’s proximity to Boston makes it a convenient location for commuters. The city is served by the Massachusetts Turnpike (I-90) and several MBTA commuter rail and Green Line stops. Public transit and major highways provide easy access to Boston and surrounding areas.
A Community-Oriented City
Newton is known for its strong sense of community, reflected in its active neighborhood associations, volunteer opportunities, and local initiatives. The city places a high value on sustainability, education, and inclusivity, making it an ideal place to live, work, and visit.
Why Couples Therapy in Newton, MA?
Seeking therapy is a sign of strength and commitment to your relationship. In Newton, you’ll find a community of dedicated professionals ready to help you reconnect, rebuild trust, and foster a healthy, happier relationship.
Resources for Couples Therapy in Newton, Massachusetts
Here’s a list of couple-friendly spots for date times and connection time in Newton, MA, complete with links for more information:
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SALT Patisserie
792 Beacon St, Newton, MA 02459
Enjoy artisanal pastries and specialty coffee in a cozy atmosphere. -
George Howell Coffee Co.
311 Walnut St, Newtonville, MA 02460
Renowned for its premium coffee, perfect for a casual date. -
Sycamore
755 Beacon St, Newton, MA 02459
A French-Spanish-inspired bistro offering an intimate dining experience. -
Aquitaine Chestnut Hill
11 Boylston St, Chestnut Hill, MA 02467
Parisian-inspired cuisine in a charming setting, great for special evenings. -
The Paint Bar
823 Washington St, Newtonville, MA 02460
Unleash your creativity together at a guided painting session. -
Charles River Canoe & Kayak
2401 Commonwealth Ave, Auburndale, MA 02466
Paddle along the scenic Charles River with tandem kayaks or canoes. -
Showcase SuperLux Chestnut Hill
55 Boylston St, Chestnut Hill, MA 02467
Watch a movie in style with reclining seats and in-theater dining. -
The Street Chestnut Hill
55 Boylston St, Chestnut Hill, MA 02467
Explore boutique shops, enjoy fine dining, or attend seasonal events at this outdoor shopping center.
These spots offer a mix of dining, activities, and relaxation for couples to enjoy quality time together in Newton, MA.