You want to make it work—you just don’t know how.
That’s where therapy helps.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Lynn, Massachusetts.
Stop having the same fight
Instead of repeating the same fights where one or both of you shuts down, blames, yells, or avoids the issue—escalating into drawn-out arguments—you’ll learn to identify and sidestep the recurring triggers (that look, a tone of voice, blame or criticism) that set it all off. You’ll learn to navigate even the toughest conversations because you’ll recognize the warning signs that you’re heading down the wrong path and know how to course-correct before things escalate.
When you do fight, you'll learn how to repair quickly
Rather than storming off or staying silent for days, you’ll learn to apologize in a way that truly helps. You’ll take responsibility for your actions and words and express genuine regret, turning conflicts into opportunities for growth in your relationship.
Find the understanding you both crave
Once you uncover what fuels your repeated arguments and misunderstandings, you'll learn to intentionally choose a new direction. Instead of staying walled off in your separate corners; you'll be ready to communicate with the purpose of truly understanding each other.
Support each other during life's transitions
When life throws you a curveball, you'll be each other's rock. I’ll guide you to turn toward your partner during stressful times, so you can face challenges together and make the weight of stress feel lighter..
Recovery from infidelity
Once we’ve established a foundation of safety, I’ll help you express your hurt openly and honestly. I’ll then guide your partner to truly listen and show that they hear and understand you. When you see your pain reflected in their eyes, that’s the moment healing begins—bringing you closer and more connected than ever before.
Bring the sexy feelings back
Safety, connection, and mindful exercises that tune you into your body pave the way for pleasure to flow back in.
Resolve long standing conflict or betrayals
Once you feel safe sharing your more vulnerable thoughts and feelings you'll grieve together the mistakes you've each made. You'll be a team again.
Teamwork will make your relationship blossom
No more "me vs. you," no more slammed doors or heavy silences. You truly understand each other. Now, you're both ready and equipped to share your deepest fears and desires, coming together on every level—emotionally and physically.
Return to the life where you
couldn’t wait to be with your partner.
The Process - Couples Therapy in Lynn, Massachusetts
Session one:
couple together
In our first session, we’ll meet together. I’ll walk you through how EFT works and what to expect—then we get right to it.
We’ll start uncovering what’s really driving the disconnection: the patterns that keep you stuck, the reactions that leave you both hurt and confused.
Once you can see the cycle clearly, you’ll realize you have choices—powerful ones. Changing how you respond in moments of stress or conflict can shift everything between you.
Session two and three: individual sessions
In sessions two and three, I’ll meet with each of you one-on-one. I want to understand where you’ve come from—your families, past relationships, and what’s shaped how you show up here. My role is to connect deeply with both of you while holding the relationship at the center. These sessions often bring new clarity, perspective, and a sense of what’s really driving the disconnect.
Session four and beyond:
couple together
I’ll help you slow down and find the moments where things fall apart—the sharp words, the silence, the turning away. Beneath those reactions are emotions that, when finally shared, can rebuild the bond between you. If there’s been betrayal, we’ll face it directly, giving space for pain to be seen and felt so healing can begin.
Jumpstart Healing in a Relationship on the Edge
When infidelity, years of conflict, or deep disconnection threaten your bond, small steps often aren’t enough. A couples therapy intensive provides a concentrated jumpstart—helping you break through entrenched patterns,
begin repairing trust, and reconnect in just 1–2 days.
This intensive is the first, essential step toward lasting change. By creating momentum upfront, it makes ongoing weekly or biweekly therapy far more effective, giving your relationship the tools, clarity, and energy it
needs to recover before it slips further toward separation or divorce.
FAQS About Couples Therapy in Lynn, MA
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how can it help us?
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a structured, evidence-based approach that helps couples move out of cycles of conflict and disconnection. Instead of just learning communication tips, EFT gets to the root of why you’re stuck—helping you feel safer, more understood, and more connected to each other again. It’s especially effective for couples in crisis or dealing with long-standing patterns of hurt. Research shows that even five years after finishing EFT, couples remain connected and strong.
We’re in a rough place. Is couples therapy too late for us?
Not at all. I specialize in working with high-conflict couples and those on the brink of separation. You don’t have to be on the same page to start therapy. In fact, many couples come in feeling unsure whether they can—or should—stay together. That’s okay. We’ll slow things down, figure out what’s really happening underneath the surface, and give your relationship a structured space to breathe and decide what’s next.
What if one of us isn’t sure we want to stay in the relationship?
That’s more common than you might think. If one partner is leaning out and the other is all-in, I offer a specific process called Discernment Counseling. It's an up to 5 session, structured process to help you decide. Couples who complete the discernment process begin couples therapy with a high level of commitment and openness or end their relationship with respect and understanding.
Do both partners have to attend?
Yes. Couples therapy only works if both people are in the room—physically or virtually. Even if one of you isn’t fully on board yet, showing up is the first step. You don’t have to be ready to change everything overnight. You just have to be willing to start the conversation.
Will you take sides?
No. I’ll take the side of the relationship.
My job isn’t to decide who’s right — it’s to help you both slow down, hear what’s really being said underneath the anger, and understand what keeps pulling you into the same cycle. It might sound easy - but it's a structured process with roadblocks (and yes! I know how to move through those too.)
We’ve tried therapy before. Why would this be any different?
Because this isn’t about communication tips or taking turns talking.
Emotionally Focused Therapy gets underneath the defenses — the panic, the shame, the distance — and helps you reconnect at the root. It’s not about saying the right thing; it’s about finally being understood.
Things for Couples to Do in Lynn, MA: Explore, Relax, and Reconnect
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Revere Beach – Stroll hand-in-hand along this scenic and historic beach. Enjoy the sand, waves, and a beautiful sunset while taking a break from daily life.
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Lynn Woods Reservation – If you're into nature, hike through this 2,000-acre urban park. It's perfect for an adventurous couple to explore trails, peaceful lakes, and scenic views.
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The Lynn Museum & Historical Society – Spend a couple of hours learning about Lynn's rich history, including its contributions to shoe manufacturing, and browse local art and exhibits.
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Saugus Iron Works National Historic Site – Just a short drive away, visit this historic site to learn about early American industrial history and take a walk through beautifully preserved grounds.
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Lynn Shore Drive – Take a romantic drive along Lynn Shore Drive and admire the ocean view, historic landmarks, and picturesque coastline.
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The Blue Ox – For a cozy night out, enjoy delicious food and craft beers at this popular local restaurant. It's a great spot to relax, enjoy some great conversation, and share a meal.
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The Gannon Golf Course – If you're into golfing, enjoy a relaxing round at the Gannon Golf Course, offering scenic views and a perfect setting for a leisurely day with your partner.
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Commonwealth Avenue Park – Enjoy a peaceful picnic or an afternoon walk in this well-maintained park with lovely green spaces and paths perfect for an intimate moment.
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Lynn Auditorium – Check out an exciting show or live performance at the Lynn Auditorium. It’s a great way to enjoy culture together and create a memorable evening.