Kimberly Schildbach Therapy
Online Couples Therapy and Discernment Counseling in Washington, Massachusetts, Connecticut, & Florida.
Couples Therapy for Infidelity in Boston, Massachusetts
Couples therapy for infidelity helping couples rebuild trust, repair emotional connection, and heal after betrayal, affairs, and broken honesty.
When Infidelity Causes Harm - How Couples Can Find Healing
You don’t recognize the person in front of you anymore - and you don’t recognize yourself in this relationship either. One of you is carrying the shock of betrayal, the other is sitting in shame, confusion, or disbelief at who they’ve become.
Everything feels charged. A single question, tone, or notification on their phone can spiral each of you into panic, defensiveness, or shutdown - and neither of you feels like you’re getting through to the person you love.
You’re stuck in two painful realities at once: the hurt partner who can’t stop replaying what happened, and the partner who feels like they’re being seen only through the worst thing they’ve ever done.
Both of you are exhausted from trying to “fix it” in the middle of emotional chaos - one reaching for clarity and safety, the other reaching for words that don’t seem to land. And somehow, you both end up feeling alone inside the same relationship.
Couples therapy for infidelity meets you right in the middle of the rupture - and helps you find a way through it together.
Infidelity has changed you. It can leave you unable to sleep, unable to focus, constantly scanning for more lies, more secrets, more evidence that the person you love is no longer your best friend. Some couples are barely speaking. Others are talking in circles for hours every night and getting nowhere. Many are living in the same house feeling completely alone.
Healing from betrayal requires far more than communication tips or weekly check-ins. You don't need a moderator or a referee. You need a proven process to help you come back from the edge and find the "us" again.
In my work with couples in Boston, I help partners move through the raw aftermath of infidelity, sexual betrayal, emotional affairs, and the damage that comes from compulsive sexual behavior. I do not minimize the damage betrayal causes, and I do not rush couples toward forgiveness before real emotional accountability and emotional safety exist.
I Help You Slow Down the Chaos and Understand What Actually Happened
After discovery, most couples become trapped in survival mode. Every conversation escalates quickly. Weekends aren't restful anymore. Questions repeat endlessly. The injured partner feels desperate for clarity while the other partner might become defensive and shut down.
Those late night conversations are wearing the both of you down. It's time to do something different. I will help you learn to speak from a new place in your heart - the place that's blindsided or embarrassed - those tender messages of sadness, fear, and hurt are what your relationship needs right now. We look at why repair attempts failed, what keeps retraumatizing the relationship now, and what each partner is still protecting underneath the conflict.
My work helps couples hold accountability and compassion at the same time without collapsing into blame, excuses, or endless crisis conversations.
I Help Create Real Transparency - Not Performative Reassurance
Many couples come to therapy stuck in painful cycles where one partner desperately searches for answers while the other insists they are “trying” but continues avoiding full honesty and emotional openness. So the partner searching for answers has no choice but to ask their questions again and again.
I help couples establish real accountability so the betrayed partner is no longer forced to become a detective in their own relationship. That means helping couples move through disclosure work carefully, slowing down when questions about details arise so we can root out what your question is really asking. (No partner should ever have intimate details added into an already overwhelmed mind.)
I also help the unfaithful partner fully understand the depth of the trauma that has been caused, rather than rushing toward defensiveness. Most likely, you’re feeling ashamed and embarrassed and would like to move past this stage as quickly as possible - but if you do, you’ll miss your chance to really become the person you weren’t during the affair: honest, courageous, and leading with integrity.
I am direct in session. I will not collude with minimizing, attacking, manipulation, gaslighting, or empty promises that keep couples stuck. It doesn’t help you for me to stay silent. You both deserve a relationship that's the whole cake, including the frosting.
Repair Is Truly Possible
Right now, it may feel impossible to think you'll ever feel safe with each other again. I'm here to tell you that repair is possible.
Not all couples will want to do the work. Some will opt-out. If you're ready to move from blame to understanding, from defence to openess - you can have a relationship that not only survives infidelity but becomes a healthier relationship than you had before.
I have watched couples come back from extraordinary levels of pain. Couples who thought divorce was inevitable. Couples who could barely sit in the same room without exploding. Couples who thought they would never be the same again. And little by little, trust returns.
After Betrayal: Finding Your Way Back to Each Other
Couples Therapy for Infidelity in Boston, Massachusetts
Choose Your Path: Weekly Therapy or Intensive Therapy for Infidelity
Every couple arrives in a different place. Some need steady, ongoing support as they work through the aftermath of betrayal. Others feel like they're in crisis and don't want to spend months waiting for relief. That's why I offer two ways to work together.
Path One: Ongoing Therapy
Weekly or biweekly 50-minute sessions, beginning with an 80-minute intake session
Ideal if you're both committed to the process and value the support and accountability
that ongoing therapy provides
Best for couples who can consistently attend sessions over time
Weekly and biweekly sessions allow us to work through blocks, setbacks, and escalations as they arise in real life
For couples with infidelity (recently discovered or in the past), betrayal, and high-conflict
Path Two: Intensive Therapy
Choose a 2-Day or 3-Day Intensive
For couples ready to stay with the hard emotions that arise so something different can happen
For couples who keep adding pain to pain in arguments, feel overwhelmed, or are beginning to lose hope
For couples whose lives don't allow for weekly meetings. Intensives provide the focused time and space needed to go deeply into repair
For couples facing infidelity, betrayal, high conflict, or uncertainty about the future
FAQs about Couples Therapy Infidelity and Affair Recovery in Boston, Massachusetts
Why do I still feel traumatized months after the affair ended?
Because your nervous system may still not feel safe. Many betrayed partners experience symptoms that look very similar to PTSD: hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, panic, emotional flooding, difficulty sleeping, obsessive thinking, and loss of trust in themselves. Healing does not happen simply because contact stopped. You need time to trust yourself and your partner again.
What if my partner refuses to answer my questions about the affair?
Avoidance, minimizing, and “wanting to move on” too quickly are extremely common after discovery. Unfortunately, secrecy and partial truths often retraumatize the relationship. In couples therapy, I help partners move toward a full and thorough disclosure (if there hasn't been one already) to begin the healing process.
Can couples therapy help after emotional affairs, online cheating, or porn addiction?
Yes. Betrayal trauma is not limited to physical affairs. Emotional affairs, secret online relationships, compulsive pornography use, sexual secrecy, hidden messaging, and repeated deception can deeply damage attachment security and trust. I work with couples facing all forms of relational betrayal, not just traditional affairs.
What makes infidelity therapy different from regular couples counseling?
Couples recovering from betrayal often need more structure, more emotional depth, and more active intervention than traditional couples counseling provides. Infidelity work involves trauma responses, attachment injuries, accountability, nervous system regulation, trust rebuilding, and often intense emotions. This work requires a specialized understanding of betrayal dynamics - the work happens on many levels at once, pre- and post-affair. It takes specialized training, skill, and a willingness to come alongside a couple at the most desperate time in their relationship.
You're Covered in Boston
Therapy for Infidelity and Affair Recovery in Boston, MA
I provide online couples therapy for infidelity and affair recovery for residents throughout Boston, including:
Back Bay - Beacon Hill - South End - Charlestown - Seaport District - North End - Jamaica Plain - Brookline - Cambridge - Fenway–Kenmore - South Boston - Beacon Street - West Roxbury - Dorchester - Roslindale - Allston - Brighton - Newton - Somerville - Chestnut Hill
Also providing online couples therapy for infidelity and affair recovery throughout Cambridge and across Massachusetts.