Kimberly Schildbach Therapy
Online Couples Therapy and Discernment Counseling in Washington, Massachusetts, Connecticut, & Florida.
Couples Therapy for Infidelity and Affair Recovery in Boston, Massachusetts
Specialized couples therapy for affairs, betrayal, and broken trust in Boston, Newton, Cambridge, and surrounding communities.
When Infidelity Causes Harm - How Couples Can Find Healing
in Boston
You don’t recognize the person in front of you anymore - and you don’t recognize yourself in this relationship either. One of you is carrying the shock of betrayal, the other is sitting in shame, confusion, or disbelief at what they’ve done.
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Everything feels charged. A single question, tone, or notification on their phone can spiral each of you into panic, defensiveness, or shutdown - and neither of you feels like you’re getting through to the person you love.
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You’re stuck in two painful realities at once: the hurt partner who can’t stop replaying what happened, and the partner who feels like they’re being seen only through the worst thing they’ve ever done.
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Both of you are exhausted from trying to “fix it” in the middle of emotional chaos - one reaching for clarity and safety, the other reaching for words that don’t seem to land. And somehow, you both end up feeling alone inside the same relationship.
Couples therapy for infidelity meets you right in the middle of the rupture - and helps you find a way through it together.
Infidelity has changed you. It can leave you constantly scanning for more lies, more secrets, more evidence that the person you love is no longer your best friend. Some couples are barely speaking. Others are talking in circles for hours every night and getting nowhere. Many are living in the same house feeling completely alone.
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I help couples in Boston move through the raw aftermath of infidelity, sexual betrayal, emotional affairs, and the damage that comes from any form of secret sexual behavior. I do not minimize the damage betrayal causes, and I do not rush couples toward forgiveness before real emotional accountability and emotional safety exist.
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My work helps couples hold accountability and compassion at the same time without collapsing into blame, excuses, or endless crisis conversations.
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What I've learned is that infidelity changes a relationship, but it doesn't have to be the end of the story.
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You may not be able to imagine that right now. You may still be wondering whether you can ever trust each other again, feel close again, or simply enjoy being together again.
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You both deserve a relationship that's the whole cake, including the frosting.
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Repair Is Truly Possible
I have watched couples come back from extraordinary levels of pain. Couples who thought divorce was inevitable. Couples who could barely sit in the same room without exploding. Couples who once felt consumed by the affair eventually found themselves talking about other things, laughing again, making plans again, and feeling like partners again.
The betrayal became part of their story.
It was no longer the whole story.
After Betrayal and Infidelity: Finding Your Way Back to Each Other
Couples Therapy for Infidelity in Boston, Massachusetts
FAQs about Couples Therapy Infidelity and Affair Recovery in Boston, Massachusetts
​Why do I still feel traumatized months after the affair ended?
Because your nervous system may still not feel safe. Many betrayed partners experience symptoms that look very similar to PTSD: hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, panic, emotional flooding, difficulty sleeping, obsessive thinking, and loss of trust in themselves. Healing does not happen simply because contact stopped. You need time to trust yourself and your partner again.
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What if my partner refuses to answer my questions about the affair?
Avoidance, minimizing, and “wanting to move on” too quickly are extremely common after discovery. Unfortunately, secrecy and partial truths often retraumatize the relationship. In couples therapy, I help partners move toward a full and thorough disclosure (if there hasn't been one already) to begin the healing process.
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Can couples therapy help after emotional affairs, online cheating, or porn addiction?
Yes. Betrayal trauma is not limited to physical affairs. Emotional affairs, secret online relationships, compulsive pornography use, sexual secrecy, hidden messaging, and repeated deception can deeply damage attachment security and trust. I work with couples facing all forms of relational betrayal, not just traditional affairs.
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What makes infidelity therapy different from regular couples counseling?
Couples recovering from betrayal often need more structure, more emotional depth, and more active intervention than traditional couples counseling provides. Infidelity work involves trauma responses, attachment injuries, accountability, nervous system regulation, trust rebuilding, and often intense emotions. This work requires a specialized understanding of betrayal dynamics - the work happens on many levels at once, pre- and post-affair. It takes specialized training, skill, and a willingness to come alongside a couple at the most desperate time in their relationship.
You're Covered in Boston
Therapy for Infidelity and Affair Recovery in Boston, MA
I provide online couples therapy for infidelity, betrayal, sexual secrecy, and affair recovery for residents in Boston, including:
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Back Bay - Beacon Hill - South End - Charlestown - Seaport District - North End - Jamaica Plain - Brookline - Cambridge - Fenway–Kenmore - South Boston - Beacon Street - West Roxbury - Dorchester - Roslindale - Allston - Brighton - Newton - Somerville - Chestnut Hill
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