Kimberly Schildbach Therapy
Online Couples Therapy and Discernment Counseling in Washington, Massachusetts, Connecticut, & Florida.
Massachusetts Couples Counseling, Marriage Counseling, Infidelity Recovery & Discernment Counseling
Specialized support for high-conflict relationships, betrayal trauma, and couples facing difficult decisions about the future of their relationship.
When You're Not Sure How Much Longer You Can Keep Doing This
Couples Therapy in Massachusetts including Boston, Newton, Cambridge, Worcester, and the North Shore
You’re exhausted from being roommates with history. You share a bed, a schedule, maybe kids or a mortgage - but every time you try to talk it turns into the same old argument. Round and round you go with no way off. You know you can be good at this you just don't know how.
If your bond has been damaged by infidelity, threats of divorce, or years of conflict - it's hard to feel there is any hope.
You're ready to get off the hamster wheel and do something different. That's where my expert services can help you be successful in your relationship.
Couples Therapy Services in Massachusetts
In Boston and all of Massachusetts. Couples therapy helps you finally have the relationship you both deserve.
When you're ready to move out of blame and be on the same team again.
When you can't decide if you want to repair or move to separation and divorce.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Couples Counseling in Massachusetts
Most couples therapy fails because it doesn’t get to the emotional heart of the problem. EFT does.
If communication skills and "I" statements worked - you'd have fixed your relationship already.
In couples counseling in Massachusetts I'll help you both identify the patterns that pull you apart - those moments when one of you withdraws, or lashes out, or goes numb - and we learn what’s really happening underneath.
Through this work, you will both learn to:
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Recognize and stop repeating your reactive cycles, the repetitive fights, the hurts that keep coming up in conversation
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Understand the emotional needs driving your fights, what's the trigger that sets it all off
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Rebuild safety and trust after betrayal or secrecy
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You'll both learn how to reach instead of retreat, how to slow down and soften rather than lash out, and when you mess up (because you will!) you'll learn how to repair.
Couples can't do this on their own because you are so important to each other and every eye-roll or sigh you make meaning about. I can help you do this - I'm the Boston specialist you need right now and I have the chops and the experience to help you.
If your relationship is hurting, it’s already leaking into the rest of your life.
It shows up in how you sleep.
How patient you are with your kids.
How present you feel at work.
How alone you feel even when you’re not technically alone.
If you’re exhausted from trying to hold it together, terrified of drifting further apart, or quietly wondering whether this relationship can survive - this is your sign to stop carrying it alone. Couples therapy is the process that can help you find your way forward.
FAQs for Couples Therapy, Discernment Counseling, & Therapy for Infidelity in Massachusetts
Is our relationship too far gone for therapy to help?
I hear this quite often - usually from couples who have already been through years of hurt, distance, or even betrayal. Or couples who've tried marriage counseling with a provider that wasn't specialized in couples work. Many couples come in thinking they’re too far gone - but what’s usually “gone” is safety, not love. EFT helps you rebuild that safety, step by step, so real conversations can happen again. No more shutting down or hot pursuits. You're on the same team, working to repair your most important relationship.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
EFT is a structured, evidence-based approach to relationship therapy that helps you understand and change the emotional patterns that keep you stuck.
Instead of focusing on “who’s right,” EFT helps you identify what’s really happening underneath the fights - the fear, loneliness, and longing for something more - that drive those reactive moments.
It’s not about learning how to “communicate better.” It’s about learning how to reach for each other in new, softer ways - so repair and deep caring becomes possible.
We’ve tried therapy before and it didn’t help. How is this different?
Many couples have had unhelpful experiences in counseling - sessions that stayed on the surface or turned into weekly arguments without real progress. EFT is different because it’s structured and experiential. We don’t just talk about your problems; we slow them down in real time, so you can actually experience what’s happening between you - and learn how to shift it. My approach is active, compassionate, and clear. I won’t sit back and watch you fight. I’ll reflect back to you what I see happening in the space between the two of you so you can learn to reach for each other differently.
What if my partner isn’t sure about therapy?
Sometimes one person is ready to start, and the other feels hesitant or hopeless. Couples counseling isn’t about assigning blame. It’s about finding the pattern that traps you both, and learning how to step out of it together. If one partner refuses entirely, I also offer Discernment Counseling, a short-term, structured process designed to help couples decide whether to repair the relationship or separate thoughtfully.
How long does couples therapy take?
Some couples begin to notice changes after just a few sessions, while others - especially those recovering from betrayal or long-term disconnection - need several months of consistent work.
EFT is not meant to be open-ended forever. We work toward specific change -- with a specific road map. A map that has freed countless couples from their negative dance.
Services available in all of Massachusetts
Online Couples Counseling, Therapy for Infidelity and Affair Recovery, Discernment Counseling for Divorce Throughout Massachusetts
You don't have to live in Boston or find a couples therapist around the corner to get specialized help for your relationship. I provide online couples counseling throughout Massachusetts, so you can work with an experienced couples therapist from the privacy of your own home without fighting traffic or dealing with fluorescent lights.
I work with couples in Boston, Cambridge, Newton, Brookline, Wellesley, Revere, Charlestown, Wayland, Worcester, Springfield, Northampton, Amherst, the North Shore, South Shore, Cape Cod, and communities throughout Massachusetts.
Whether you're dealing with infidelity, high conflict, emotional distance, or trying to decide whether your marriage can be repaired, online therapy makes it possible to get specialized marriage counseling and couples therapy in Massachusetts without adding another complicated scheduling problem to your already full schedule.
If you're searching for a Massachusetts couples therapist who works specifically with relationships in serious distress, you're in the right place.