
When your sex life hurts, it touches everything.
Maybe sex feels like pressure, or like nothing at all.
Maybe one of you wants more, the other less—and you’re both starting to shut down.
Maybe you're going through the motions, wondering where the spark went.
Or every attempt ends in distance, tension, or silence.
Here’s what’s actually going on:
Desire doesn’t disappear—it gets quiet when we don’t feel safe, connected, or understood.
Attachment-based sex therapy helps you tune into what your body and relationship are trying to say.
Not “fix the problem”—understand the signal.
We use research-backed tools from EFT and attachment science to help you:
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Get clear on what turns you on—and what turns you off
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Understand why mismatched desire isn’t a character flaw
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Learn how emotional safety fuels physical intimacy
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Rebuild trust so pleasure feels possible again
Sex isn’t a performance. It’s a conversation.
When that conversation has gone off the rails—or gone completely silent—therapy can help you find the way back.
If you're tired of tiptoeing, guessing, or giving up—you're in the right place.
Whether you’re early in your relationship or decades in, whether sex has been a source of connection or a site of pain, sex therapy can help. Together, we’ll create space to slow down, heal what’s in the way, and reconnect—with your body, your partner, and the intimacy you both long for.
What Is Attachment-Based Sex Therapy?
At its core, attachment-based sex therapy is about understanding the why beneath the sexual struggles.
We slow things down.
We get curious, not critical.
We look at how your patterns around sex are tied to deeper needs for closeness, reassurance, autonomy, and belonging.
Sex is never just about sex.
It’s a window into how you reach for each other—or don’t—when things feel vulnerable.
Using the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I help you:
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Uncover the emotional patterns driving your sexual dynamics
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Heal resentments and ruptures that have built up over time
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Create space for honest, shame-free conversations about needs, touch, and pleasure
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Rebuild trust and safety—emotionally and physically
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Experience intimacy as a source of comfort, connection, and mutual joy again
This isn’t about fixing one partner or assigning blame.
It’s about helping both of you feel seen, chosen, and safe enough to show up with your whole selves.

Is Attachment Based Sex Therapy for You?
This work is especially powerful for couples who:
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Feel stuck in a pattern of sexual rejection or pressure
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Are recovering from infidelity, betrayal, or secretive sexual behavior
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Have different levels of desire—and feel hurt, blamed, or misunderstood
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Haven’t had sex in months (or years), but aren’t ready to give up
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Are navigating sexual compulsivity or out-of-control behavior, and want to rebuild trust
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Want to explore intimacy in a way that honors each partner’s nervous system, history, and pacing

Let’s Make Talking About Sex as Easy as Ordering Pizza (Almost)
You deserve a space where you can drop the masks and be completely seen.
Here, talking about sex isn’t awkward or scary—it’s a skill we build together, step by step.
We practice, we repeat, and bit by bit, sex becomes easier to talk about in therapy—and even easier to talk about at home.
It is my priority to make a welcoming space to have the conversations you need to have.

This is your turning point.
Whether you’ve been stuck for months or quietly suffering for years—this is your chance to change the story.
I offer both weekly therapy and private intensives designed for couples who are ready to repair the emotional and sexual bond that’s been fraying for too long.
You don’t have to keep waiting for things to magically get better.
You can choose something different—starting now.