If You’re Still Fighting, There’s Still Something Left to Fight For
You wouldn’t be here if you didn’t give a damn.
Even if it comes out sideways—as yelling, silence, slammed doors, or long nights feeling miles apart.
That tension? It’s not apathy.
It’s a sign something in you still wants. To be seen. To be safe. To be close again.
High-conflict couples aren’t hopeless.
They’re raw. Overloaded. Stuck in patterns that feel impossible to stop.
The blowups, the shutdowns—they’re not the root problem. They’re the alarm bells.
This isn’t about mastering “I” statements.
It’s about learning how to come back from the edge—together.
To slow the storm. To make space for what’s underneath the anger: the grief, the fear, the need.
I work with couples who’ve been through the unimaginable—betrayal, trauma, chronic disconnect—and still feel something worth saving.
Couples who fight like hell, but haven’t quit on each other.
And no, it’s not too late.
With the right support, you can break the cycle.
I specialize in helping couples who have been
underserved by therapy in the past
If couples therapy hasn’t helped you in the past, you’re not alone. Many therapists "see couples" but aren’t specially trained couples therapists - trained in the unique dynamics of relationship distress. Without expertise in guiding intense emotions, sessions can turn into the same fights you have at home—only now, you’re paying for it.
That’s not what I do. I don’t let you spiral into arguments about content. Instead, I stop the escalation before it starts and lead you toward a deeper understanding of what’s really happening underneath. I teach you how to truly hear each other, how to repair, and how to have meaningful conversations outside of our sessions.
You won’t leave with generic homework—if Google could have fixed this, you wouldn’t be here. Our sessions are a laboratory where you’ll build and strengthen new relational muscles so real change happens where it matters most—at home.
My goal is for you to recognize the cycle that’s keeping you both stuck and learn how to stop it in its tracks. I’ll lead you in conversations that help you see the heart of your partner—the part you’ve lost sight of—and find your way back to each other.
If your arguments heat up quickly, you need more than a generic therapist—you need someone trained to handle the messy. My entire practice is dedicated to couples, and it’s my passion to help you solve the disconnect.
If therapy has failed you in the past, it’s not because your relationship is beyond help—it’s because you didn’t have the right kind of support. High-conflict couples need more than just communication tips or a neutral referee. You need a therapist who understands the deeper emotional undercurrents beneath the fights, de-escalate tension in the moment, and guide you toward real, lasting change.
Here’s how I do things differently:
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A Structured, Proven Approach – I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which doesn’t just teach communication skills but helps you understand why you’re stuck in painful cycles and how to break free.
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I Don’t Just Watch You Fight – If past therapy turned into another battleground, I step in. I slow things down, help you hear what’s really being said, and make space for the emotions driving the conflict.
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You’ll Both Feel Seen & Heard – No taking sides, no reinforcing blame. My focus is on helping both of you understand your role in the cycle so real healing can happen.
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No Endless Sessions Without Progress – We work with a clear agenda and focus, whether in weekly therapy or intensive sessions. My goal is to help you see real movement—not keep you stuck rehashing the same fights.
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Commitment & Clarity – Whether you’re here to repair your bond or decide if this relationship can continue, I help you get clear on your path—without judgment, without pressure, just honest, structured guidance.
The Process
Session one:
couple together
We'll all meet together for session one. I will quickly introduce you to the process of EFT and how I work in sessions. Together, we will dive into the key challenges you’re facing. We’ll explore your attachment styles and how they shape the way you approach conflicts. With this understanding, you’ll begin to see how your coping styles impact each other, allowing you to unite against the rigid cycle that keeps you stuck. My priority is to create a safe and supportive space where both of you feel seen, heard, and understood.
Session two and three: individual sessions
During sessions two and three, I’ll meet with each of you individually to learn more about your family background, relationship history, goals, and concerns. My aim is to build a strong connection with both of you as I work in support of your relationship. Together, we’ll explore your thoughts and emotions, and I may offer alternative perspectives or insights for you to consider. In a collaborative process, we’ll work to uncover and understand the underlying feelings that trigger arguments, helping you navigate these challenges with greater understanding and compassion.
Session four and beyond:
couple together
I will help you both slow down and focus on those pivotal moments in your interactions where communication falters—whether it’s during escalating arguments, when emotions feel overwhelming, or when one of you feels hurt or dismissed. I will help you uncover the deeper feelings that often get suppressed—those emotions that, when shared, help your partner feel your love and lead to powerful and adhesive bonding moments. If there has been infidelity or other betrayals, I will help guide you through conversations where the betrayed partner can express their pain and feel that their hurt is truly understood and shared so you can grieve this relationship challenge together.
Weeks of Therapy in Just 1-2 Days
Why wait months when you can supercharge your relationship in just 1 or 2 days? A couples therapy intensive lets you fast-track what would normally take many weeks—resolving conflicts, rebuilding trust, and sparking new energy in your relationship.
Think of it as therapy on steroids (the good kind)—packed with insights, breakthroughs, and a massive boost to your connection. Get your best friend back and reignite the spark.
High-Conflict Couples vs. Abuse
High-conflict couples experience frequent, intense disagreements but still have a foundation where both partners have a voice, even if communication is difficult. These relationships are often marked by cycles of arguing, defensiveness, and emotional reactivity, but there is still a
mutual desire to repair.
Abuse, on the other hand, involves a clear power imbalance where one partner exerts control through fear, intimidation, or harm—whether emotional, physical, financial, or psychological. In abusive relationships, safety is the primary concern, and traditional couples therapy is not appropriate. The key difference is that conflict, even when destructive, can be worked through, while abuse requires intervention to ensure the victim’s well-being and safety.
If you are experiencing abuse, help is available. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for confidential support.