Infidelity Changes Everything — But It Doesn’t Always Have to End Everything
When betrayal hits, couples often fall into one of two traps: silence or chaos.
You’re either walking on eggshells, trying not to trigger the next argument—or stuck in endless loops of blame and defense.
Neither brings healing.
In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we slow down those reactive cycles to find what’s underneath: the hurt, the fear, the longing to feel close again.
Whether you’re the one who who had the affair or the one left shattered by it, therapy helps you make sense of what happened and what you want moving forward—without judgment, without pressure.
What Online Infidelity
Therapy Looks Like
My sessions are intentionally structured to help you move from the intense, overwhelming emotions you’re experiencing right now to a place of clarity and emotional balance.
When we talk about safety in sessions, this is exactly what we mean: guiding you both from escalation to de-escalation, from intense emotions to more manageable, distilled feelings, and from patterns of anger, blame, or withdrawal to open, honest, and connected conversations.
You can expect therapy to be focused, using my skills to help you with emotionally precise repair work grounded in the science of attachment and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
In our work together, you will:
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Understand how betrayal took root—the patterns, the disconnection, and the moments that led you here
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Bring truth to the surface—creating safety for both partners to express pain, anger, and fear without it spiraling
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Name and address the unmet emotional needs that have been hidden under distance, resentment, or avoidance
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Learn how to rebuild trust, step by step—with clear actions, accountability, and emotional presence
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Begin constructing a new foundation for your relationship: one that’s grounded in honesty
Online sessions allow you to do this work from the privacy and comfort of your own space—whether you’re in Arlington, MA or nearby. Many couples find it easier to engage more openly online; it feels safe, contained, and focused entirely on the work that matters most.
FAQ: Online Couples Therapy for Infidelity – Arlington, MA
Can a relationship survive infidelity?
Yes. Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end. With the right guidance, couples can rebuild trust, reconnect emotionally, and create a stronger, more resilient bond. This work is about stopping the spiral of blame, opening honest communication, and taking intentional steps toward real repair.
How do I know if therapy can actually help us heal after cheating?
If you’re stuck in cycles of blame, shame, or avoidance, therapy can help. I provide a structured, safe space to process emotions, understand patterns, and rebuild connection. Healing isn’t magic—it’s intentional, step-by-step work with someone who knows how to guide couples through betrayal. My whole practice is devoted to couples and couples issues, your relationship is in skilled hands.
Do we have to go to therapy together or can I go alone?
Both options are available. Individual therapy can provide you a space to process, to consider your options, and rebuild after infidelity. Couples therapy is for partners who are committed to rebuilding and it's where the real repair happens.
What does online therapy for infidelity actually look like?
Think of it as focused, high-impact work from the comfort of your home. I structure each session to be a place where you can fully open up, without distractions. We dive straight into the work that matters most. Couples find online therapy extremely productive—opening up comes more naturally, and progress often happens faster.
How long does it take to rebuild trust after betrayal?
Every relationship is different. Some couples see meaningful change in a few weeks, others in months. The goal isn’t speed—it’s a solid, lasting repair. We want your relationship house built on a firm foundation.
Will therapy make me relive the pain of the affair over and over?
Not like that. Therapy is a guided space to process the hurt safely. You revisit the pain intentionally, with my help and support, so you can communicate vulnerably how it shook your world. For the injurer, access deeper emotions helps you to understand what caused your behavior and how to respond to life differently. Over time, the intensity of the pain fades while emotional clarity, understanding, and connection grow.
Can therapy help after an emotional affair or just a physical one?
Both. Emotional affairs are just as damaging as physical ones. Therapy addresses the underlying patterns—disconnection, unmet needs, and attachment wounds—so you can repair the relationship, no matter the type of betrayal.
Why do we need a specialized therapist for infidelity in Arlington, MA?
Infidelity is high-stakes and emotionally charged. A skilled therapist brings experience, structure, and proven strategies to your sessions. Therapy will not be about abusing each other because of the pain. I will not let you have the same fights you have at home. I want to help you stop destructive cycles and rebuild connection. You need a therapist who knows how to handle the intensity of infidelity sessions - not shy away from the conflict. My practice is all couples and the repetitions matter.
How do I know if therapy is right for us?
If you want to stop repeating the same arguments, rebuild trust, and reconnect emotionally, therapy is for you. You won’t know until you try. Truly bonding with your partner and feeling that deep, secure connection is transformative—and it’s possible, even if trauma, dishonesty, or neglect have been part of your past. You deserve a deeply connected, loving relationship—and therapy can help you get there.
What makes your approach different from other therapists?
I combine Emotionally Focused Therapy with deep experience in betrayal recovery and a practical, grounded style. I have the lived experience of a therapist as well as a wife and mother of many years.
How do we actually get started?
Reach out, ask question or schedule your first session.
Places for Couples to Reconnect in Arlington, Massachusetts
Arlington, MA offers a variety of charming spots perfect for couples seeking to reconnect. Enjoy a leisurely stroll or a peaceful moment at Spy Pond Park, a serene location ideal for reflection and conversation. For a more immersive experience, consider visiting the Cyrus Dallin Art Museum, where you can explore captivating sculptures together. If you're in the mood for a cozy meal, Scutra offers a chef-owned dining experience with a menu inspired by local seafood and seasonal ingredients. For a touch of nostalgia, catch a classic film at the Capitol Theatre, a historic venue that adds a special ambiance to your evening. These venues provide a range of settings to help you and your partner rekindle your connection.
